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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 754312" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>My autistic son (Asperger's) was also obsessed with violence. He would hurt his little sister if left alone in a room with her. For years I had to take her into the bathroom with me or she ended up bruised/battered. Try not being able to pee alone for 4 or 5 years! My son had so many problems that I ended up not being able to work. I kept having to leave to go get my son because he did something to someone. He NEVER recognized his teachers as authority figures. He would do what they said if he liked them but if he didn't? Or if he thought they were stupid? OMG those were hard times. </p><p></p><p>We did all of the therapy and intervention we could and nothing seemed to help for long. When he was 14, I made the difficult choice that he had to live somewhere else. If he stayed with us, we were going to have a major tragedy on our hands. Either he would kill or maim me, and then his sister, or I would end up hurting him seriously to get him to stop hurting his sister. Oddly enough, he used to feel incredible guilt over hurting us, but when he got upset, he couldn't control himself. If he ended up causing serious harm, he would probably kill himself. I just couldn't live with those things happening. He went to live with my parents. I have no idea what they did, but he managed to get himself together in his late teens or early 20's. He worked very hard to rebuild his relationship with the entire family (both as individuals and as a family). He is now 28 and working full time. He is completely independent and his coworkers truly enjoy working with him. </p><p></p><p>One thing I wish we had done was Occupational Therapy for sensory issues. We didn't even know this existed until he was about 12 or 13. It can make a huge difference. I know it did with my younger son (also autistic but much milder than his older brother). If you can get into this sort of therapy, do it. One thing I LOVED about this therapy was that my kids enjoyed it. My younger son used to spend hours sitting upside down on his head while he watched TV or read books. Once we started Occupational Therapist (OT), we learned that deep pressure on the head is something that some kids need. The therapist had a table full of the types of toys that would fit my son's needs. Thanks to a Grandma that couldn't stop buying toys, we had at least 3/4 of the toys she said would help my son. And he liked them. The Occupational Therapist (OT) that he needed wasn't something we had to force him to do. it was something he WANTED to do. How often is a therapy something that the kid actually wants to do? Kids are drawn to the type of therapy that helps them. </p><p></p><p>To learn more about this, read "The Out of Sync Child" by Kranowitz. To find activities that will help, get a copy of "The Out of Sync Child Has Fun" by the same author. The "Has Fun" book is amazing. We wore out several copies. The activities were things we did with the entire family because they were so much fun. I used to have to get large amounts of the supplies needed because if we started to do an activity in our backyard, every kid in the neighborhood showed up! It was amazing to have kids just appear and want to join in. We had a blast with that book. And it made a real difference for my kids. I just wish we had known about this years before we did.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 754312, member: 1233"] My autistic son (Asperger's) was also obsessed with violence. He would hurt his little sister if left alone in a room with her. For years I had to take her into the bathroom with me or she ended up bruised/battered. Try not being able to pee alone for 4 or 5 years! My son had so many problems that I ended up not being able to work. I kept having to leave to go get my son because he did something to someone. He NEVER recognized his teachers as authority figures. He would do what they said if he liked them but if he didn't? Or if he thought they were stupid? OMG those were hard times. We did all of the therapy and intervention we could and nothing seemed to help for long. When he was 14, I made the difficult choice that he had to live somewhere else. If he stayed with us, we were going to have a major tragedy on our hands. Either he would kill or maim me, and then his sister, or I would end up hurting him seriously to get him to stop hurting his sister. Oddly enough, he used to feel incredible guilt over hurting us, but when he got upset, he couldn't control himself. If he ended up causing serious harm, he would probably kill himself. I just couldn't live with those things happening. He went to live with my parents. I have no idea what they did, but he managed to get himself together in his late teens or early 20's. He worked very hard to rebuild his relationship with the entire family (both as individuals and as a family). He is now 28 and working full time. He is completely independent and his coworkers truly enjoy working with him. One thing I wish we had done was Occupational Therapy for sensory issues. We didn't even know this existed until he was about 12 or 13. It can make a huge difference. I know it did with my younger son (also autistic but much milder than his older brother). If you can get into this sort of therapy, do it. One thing I LOVED about this therapy was that my kids enjoyed it. My younger son used to spend hours sitting upside down on his head while he watched TV or read books. Once we started Occupational Therapist (OT), we learned that deep pressure on the head is something that some kids need. The therapist had a table full of the types of toys that would fit my son's needs. Thanks to a Grandma that couldn't stop buying toys, we had at least 3/4 of the toys she said would help my son. And he liked them. The Occupational Therapist (OT) that he needed wasn't something we had to force him to do. it was something he WANTED to do. How often is a therapy something that the kid actually wants to do? Kids are drawn to the type of therapy that helps them. To learn more about this, read "The Out of Sync Child" by Kranowitz. To find activities that will help, get a copy of "The Out of Sync Child Has Fun" by the same author. The "Has Fun" book is amazing. We wore out several copies. The activities were things we did with the entire family because they were so much fun. I used to have to get large amounts of the supplies needed because if we started to do an activity in our backyard, every kid in the neighborhood showed up! It was amazing to have kids just appear and want to join in. We had a blast with that book. And it made a real difference for my kids. I just wish we had known about this years before we did. [/QUOTE]
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