I wanted to share this with some of you. It helped me and it may help you. My son is in a treatment center. He was in the last few weeks of a college class when he relapsed. He did email his instructor and they will not let him finish his class even though he is hospitalized. They said he needed to do a medical withdrawal. I had emailed the college last week when this all went down asking about what "we" need to do. I just received a response today so forwarded that email on to his therapist for my son to take care of. So I wasn't going to do it but did assist..... I received this reply from his therapist: His case manager already took care of this. Letting Jacob handle his own responsibilities is part of you and your husband detaching and setting boundaries. Trust the process. Jacob is an adult and can clean up his own mess without any assistance from you guys. I really feel I'm very detached but I guess not as much as I thought. This statement from her really put my thinking into perspective. My son is 21.