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DGD seems to be delusional and not getting better
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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 763402" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>Hi KSM,</p><p>I’m so sorry you are in this very difficult and stressful situation. There is certainly no easy solution. </p><p>Meth is a terribly dangerous drug, stating the obvious as you have already witnessed the effect on your DGD. Add a toddler in the picture- it’s just awful. </p><p>I feel for you and your hubs, who have already been through so much raising your granddaughters, and presently, your great grandson. It is the hardest thing when babies are involved.</p><p>I hope that your DGD is sincere about seeking help for her addiction. </p><p>This hits too close to home for me, KSM. I know you love your DGD. I have too much to say and have written and erased many times on my reply, trying to keep in mind that everyone’s struggles are their own and unique, and not wanting to sound harsh…..But….. the elephant in the room…. your GGS, an innocent, needs protection and stability. He has only you folks to stand up for him, which is a tough place to be in with all considered. You and your hubs need protection as well, because you found paraphernalia in your DGDs purse, <em>in your house. </em>I’m not sure what the laws are in your state about that, but would definitely want to take that into consideration as far as the legal issues as a homeowner and as a caregiver for your GGS.</p><p>We have a program here run by Salvation Army called Women’s Way that takes in addicted mothers with their children. Perhaps there is something similar in your area? I’m not sure if that would automatically involve CWS, which to many is a scary thought because of all the stories out there. Their involvement with my grands meant family sessions for relatives, (maternal and paternal) to seek out a stable solution for the children until- if and or when the bio parents had a treatment plan. The focus for at least a year was on offering and mandating programs for the parents in hopes of reunifying the children with their bio mother or father. That’s if they get their act together and take the necessary steps. </p><p>I faced the same issue with my newest grand, when my daughter was booted from rehab for breaking the rules. He was just three months or so, the social worker wanted me to take in my daughter and grandson. I have legal custody of my teenaged granddaughter and I knew with my age and health issues I could not provide for my grandsons needs, deal with my daughter, and nurture my granddaughter. She had already been through so much with her parents. Having her mom in my home would just continue the cycle for her. I had to say no. It broke my heart, but I had to put those emotions on the side and face reality. Thankfully my youngest stepped in and is raising my grandson. </p><p> It is a tough, tough situation. I am so sorry KSM. </p><p>Prayers going up that your DGD will get the help she needs and can eventually be stable enough to care for her son. Prayers for you and your hubs to stay strong and healthy despite the stress you must feel. </p><p>(((Hugs)))</p><p>Leaf</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 763402, member: 19522"] Hi KSM, I’m so sorry you are in this very difficult and stressful situation. There is certainly no easy solution. Meth is a terribly dangerous drug, stating the obvious as you have already witnessed the effect on your DGD. Add a toddler in the picture- it’s just awful. I feel for you and your hubs, who have already been through so much raising your granddaughters, and presently, your great grandson. It is the hardest thing when babies are involved. I hope that your DGD is sincere about seeking help for her addiction. This hits too close to home for me, KSM. I know you love your DGD. I have too much to say and have written and erased many times on my reply, trying to keep in mind that everyone’s struggles are their own and unique, and not wanting to sound harsh…..But….. the elephant in the room…. your GGS, an innocent, needs protection and stability. He has only you folks to stand up for him, which is a tough place to be in with all considered. You and your hubs need protection as well, because you found paraphernalia in your DGDs purse, [I]in your house. [/I]I’m not sure what the laws are in your state about that, but would definitely want to take that into consideration as far as the legal issues as a homeowner and as a caregiver for your GGS. We have a program here run by Salvation Army called Women’s Way that takes in addicted mothers with their children. Perhaps there is something similar in your area? I’m not sure if that would automatically involve CWS, which to many is a scary thought because of all the stories out there. Their involvement with my grands meant family sessions for relatives, (maternal and paternal) to seek out a stable solution for the children until- if and or when the bio parents had a treatment plan. The focus for at least a year was on offering and mandating programs for the parents in hopes of reunifying the children with their bio mother or father. That’s if they get their act together and take the necessary steps. I faced the same issue with my newest grand, when my daughter was booted from rehab for breaking the rules. He was just three months or so, the social worker wanted me to take in my daughter and grandson. I have legal custody of my teenaged granddaughter and I knew with my age and health issues I could not provide for my grandsons needs, deal with my daughter, and nurture my granddaughter. She had already been through so much with her parents. Having her mom in my home would just continue the cycle for her. I had to say no. It broke my heart, but I had to put those emotions on the side and face reality. Thankfully my youngest stepped in and is raising my grandson. It is a tough, tough situation. I am so sorry KSM. Prayers going up that your DGD will get the help she needs and can eventually be stable enough to care for her son. Prayers for you and your hubs to stay strong and healthy despite the stress you must feel. (((Hugs))) Leaf [/QUOTE]
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