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Did I do the right thing going no contact?
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 743282" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>This makes me sad SWOT. I believe your sister does love you, but she does not know how to love you in the way that you need. This is not because you are particular. It is because her way of loving you involves hurting you and blaming you. She does not know another way to do it. And sadly she craves love in the same way. With hurt. It seems like her lover hurts her. She must feel on some level she only deserves this.</p><p></p><p>This is a very hard thing to change, because it speaks to early damage. Because you have had so much therapy you have changed so much of your way of relating to life. Unfortunately. Your sister has not. But it is still very sad. </p><p></p><p>I think as long as we live this will bother us to some extent. But that does not mean you have done something wrong or are doing the wrong thing. Unless you made direct threats to her which I doubt, what your sister did to call the cops on you repeatedly is very, very primitive. This speaks to an inability to control herself or to have insight over and control over her behavior which is essential in order to have a healthy relationship. But you made a new, different life with your husband, children and friends. I am sorry it cannot be different with your sister, SWOT.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 743282, member: 18958"] This makes me sad SWOT. I believe your sister does love you, but she does not know how to love you in the way that you need. This is not because you are particular. It is because her way of loving you involves hurting you and blaming you. She does not know another way to do it. And sadly she craves love in the same way. With hurt. It seems like her lover hurts her. She must feel on some level she only deserves this. This is a very hard thing to change, because it speaks to early damage. Because you have had so much therapy you have changed so much of your way of relating to life. Unfortunately. Your sister has not. But it is still very sad. I think as long as we live this will bother us to some extent. But that does not mean you have done something wrong or are doing the wrong thing. Unless you made direct threats to her which I doubt, what your sister did to call the cops on you repeatedly is very, very primitive. This speaks to an inability to control herself or to have insight over and control over her behavior which is essential in order to have a healthy relationship. But you made a new, different life with your husband, children and friends. I am sorry it cannot be different with your sister, SWOT. [/QUOTE]
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