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Did I do the right thing going no contact?
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<blockquote data-quote="Elsi" data-source="post: 743297" data-attributes="member: 23349"><p>SWOT I don’t have much to add to Copa’s wise words here. She has given you wonderful advice and insight. It sounds to me like you are doing the right thing. I’m sure it is not easy. </p><p></p><p>I have made my peace with my family and they are mostly supportive now (those who are left). I don’t think they'll ever really ‘get’ me but I’ve decided that’s ok. </p><p></p><p>My partner is almost completely cut off from her family. She’s the ‘black sheep’ even though she’s a wonderful person and never hurt anybody. Her relationship with her older sister before going no contact sounds eerily like yours. No cop calls, but lots of projection, gaslighting, blaming for unexplained transgressions, etc. I think she’s jealous because R got out and lived her life on her own terms and her sister stayed in the same little town and under their parents thumb. She also fits a lot of the characteristics of borderline though it’s not my place to diagnose. R’s parents always showed preferential treatment to her siblings even though R is the only one that is self sufficient and has actually tried to help her parents instead of leeching off them. In return she just gets resentment and criticism. </p><p></p><p>Sometimes enough is enough. You can’t keep beating your head against a stone wall.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Elsi, post: 743297, member: 23349"] SWOT I don’t have much to add to Copa’s wise words here. She has given you wonderful advice and insight. It sounds to me like you are doing the right thing. I’m sure it is not easy. I have made my peace with my family and they are mostly supportive now (those who are left). I don’t think they'll ever really ‘get’ me but I’ve decided that’s ok. My partner is almost completely cut off from her family. She’s the ‘black sheep’ even though she’s a wonderful person and never hurt anybody. Her relationship with her older sister before going no contact sounds eerily like yours. No cop calls, but lots of projection, gaslighting, blaming for unexplained transgressions, etc. I think she’s jealous because R got out and lived her life on her own terms and her sister stayed in the same little town and under their parents thumb. She also fits a lot of the characteristics of borderline though it’s not my place to diagnose. R’s parents always showed preferential treatment to her siblings even though R is the only one that is self sufficient and has actually tried to help her parents instead of leeching off them. In return she just gets resentment and criticism. Sometimes enough is enough. You can’t keep beating your head against a stone wall. [/QUOTE]
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