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Did I do the right thing going no contact?
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 743299" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Thank you, Elsi. I feel for R. I am sorry for her.</p><p></p><p>I tried very hard to get this family to love and accept me but when it didnt happen I pulled away. My mother was the worst...I think she was destructive to both me and sis. She favored brother....maybe they were too close. He could never find a woman he loved enough to even live with so he has never had a close relationship. I think nobody could live up to our mother in his eyes (yuk). </p><p></p><p> My mother worshipped brother as a child but very much mistreated both us girls. By the time she let my sister into her life, it was too late for her to learn healthy attaching. My sister's ability to have healthy relationships with nice men had been ruined. My sister has had no good romantic relationships. Just a loveless marriage and an abuser. My dad was no help....distant, gone, abusive....yet I loved my dad. No scapegoat to him. He loved us in his way with no favorites. My mother was a real biotch to him. He was no prince either. But when they fought I secretly cheered for him until they divorced.</p><p></p><p>Im glad those days are over. I had decided long before I tried one last time with my sister, then ended it, that it would be best to cut the cord from anyone in FOO after my father passed away. My sister made an outrageous statement, very insulting to me, and I knew that this was our final end. It was time. And unlike her, I dont come back.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 743299, member: 1550"] Thank you, Elsi. I feel for R. I am sorry for her. I tried very hard to get this family to love and accept me but when it didnt happen I pulled away. My mother was the worst...I think she was destructive to both me and sis. She favored brother....maybe they were too close. He could never find a woman he loved enough to even live with so he has never had a close relationship. I think nobody could live up to our mother in his eyes (yuk). My mother worshipped brother as a child but very much mistreated both us girls. By the time she let my sister into her life, it was too late for her to learn healthy attaching. My sister's ability to have healthy relationships with nice men had been ruined. My sister has had no good romantic relationships. Just a loveless marriage and an abuser. My dad was no help....distant, gone, abusive....yet I loved my dad. No scapegoat to him. He loved us in his way with no favorites. My mother was a real biotch to him. He was no prince either. But when they fought I secretly cheered for him until they divorced. Im glad those days are over. I had decided long before I tried one last time with my sister, then ended it, that it would be best to cut the cord from anyone in FOO after my father passed away. My sister made an outrageous statement, very insulting to me, and I knew that this was our final end. It was time. And unlike her, I dont come back. [/QUOTE]
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