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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 758637" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I completely understand why you needed to get him out of the house. When my oldest was 14, we had to find another place for him to live. Someone was going to end up dead or maimed if he stayed in our home. It wasn't that we didn't love him. It was that we couldn't keep him from trying to kill his little sister and/or I. Even the cops thought we were headed for major trouble if things didn't change fast. My parents really wanted to try to turn things around before we shipped him off to a Boy's Home (I had just arranged a scholarship for 4 years of residential treatment/education/etc.... when my parents asked). I warned them fully of what they would be dealing with, and let them have a chance. We had a few rocky moments, but it also brought us closer. Six weeks into the arrangement, I got a HUGE apology from each of my parents for doubting me when I told them exactly what was going on. They thought I was overreacting. The apology was nice. </p><p></p><p>I think your solution for your son sounds great. Especially with some supervision to keep the hygiene standards up. It also gives his brother a chance to get most of your attention. That is good for him. </p><p></p><p>As for people judging you without knowing the entire situation, I am sorry that happened to you. Of course you looked into all the options you could find, and you chose the one that best fit your family's needs. Just because it wouldn't be the right choice for other families doesn't mean it is the wrong choice for your family. There were more than a few times when others questioned my parenting and I had to choose to follow what was right for my kids.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 758637, member: 1233"] I completely understand why you needed to get him out of the house. When my oldest was 14, we had to find another place for him to live. Someone was going to end up dead or maimed if he stayed in our home. It wasn't that we didn't love him. It was that we couldn't keep him from trying to kill his little sister and/or I. Even the cops thought we were headed for major trouble if things didn't change fast. My parents really wanted to try to turn things around before we shipped him off to a Boy's Home (I had just arranged a scholarship for 4 years of residential treatment/education/etc.... when my parents asked). I warned them fully of what they would be dealing with, and let them have a chance. We had a few rocky moments, but it also brought us closer. Six weeks into the arrangement, I got a HUGE apology from each of my parents for doubting me when I told them exactly what was going on. They thought I was overreacting. The apology was nice. I think your solution for your son sounds great. Especially with some supervision to keep the hygiene standards up. It also gives his brother a chance to get most of your attention. That is good for him. As for people judging you without knowing the entire situation, I am sorry that happened to you. Of course you looked into all the options you could find, and you chose the one that best fit your family's needs. Just because it wouldn't be the right choice for other families doesn't mean it is the wrong choice for your family. There were more than a few times when others questioned my parenting and I had to choose to follow what was right for my kids. [/QUOTE]
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