I need some advice on this. Mid-December difficult child school requested we put him back into the acute partial hospitalization program for school because they felt they do not have the resources he needs right now. (he goes there during school hours instead of his regular school and they bus him to and from there)I was reluctant but agreed when I found out they would pay for it this time. The day they called me about this was Thur afternoon to tell me they set up an intake appointment for the next day and wanted to know if I was willing to take him. We were suppose to meet the day before this call on Wed for our first IEP meeting as they completed their part to proceed but I had been sick for 5 days and I had to cancel the meeting due to my fever if 103. difficult child also woke up the day the meeting was scheduled with a fever. So when they called to drop this bombshell to put him back in the program we were both very sick. This call was 2pm Thur and they wanted me to have him at the appointment the next day at 11am to do the intake for the program. I agreed to "see" how we felt in the am and then decide. I did not have a temp the next morning but still sick and difficult child was the same but now had a bad sore throat. I called our principal and left message I was taking difficult child to the pediatrician to check for strep and IF the pediatrician ok it I would take him to the intake appointment.
At the pediatrician he tested difficult child for strep and influenza (he had flu shot but had all the classic symptoms) and said if negative he could go but we had to make it quick so I could get him home to rest. They were negative so off we went. He did ok during the intake and as we were meeting with the new psychiatrist they had (a 2nd one they added) and the someone came in to tell me 4 people from difficult child school were there forour IEP meeting.
I was livid!!! There was NEVER a discussion that we would be going over his IEP. AND this was at this partial program and not at his school. I was mentally and physically exhausted and voiced my annoyance while they insisted I knew we were doing this. I was so out of tiny this point that I let them go over it. I could not focus on anything and they knew it and finally a 1/2 later they rushed to finish. They said we would meet again in 30 days and I said at that meeting we needed to re-evaluate everything and work towards him coming back. I still do not have a copy if anything reviewed that day. We left and by the time I got difficult child home it had been 6 hours we were out doing all this including picking up medication for an ear infection he had. He now had a temp of 103 and looked so sick. His temp spiked to 104.3 and I know it was because we over did it.
The following Monday he started at the partial program and went all week till Christmas break.
I just got an e-mail from our school district for me to fill out a withdrawal form to be dated for Dec 16. I have NOT withdrawn him from there. Are they trying to push him out and if I sign this is he gone from their school? I am not comfortable filling this out at all. They have done nothing for him. They gave him a para educator Oct 31 who he adored and she helped so much. Other than that and putting him thru the evaluation for an IEP they have not put any other measures in place. We had a bad reaction to Vyvanse. Which caused his behavior to deteriorate again at school until we started daytrana. After daytrana it got better but they still felt he needed more help than they could provide. I was ok putting him in this program since the school was paying this time but now I am wondering if they are ever going to let him come back. (the first time he went in oct after the school urged us to try it to help him WE had to pay and our insurance only paid for 6 days at 50% and we paid $2500 out of pocket and was a waste of time since insurance would not allow him to stay longer which hE needed) they said we will meet every 30 days to go over IEP so why would I have to fill out a form to withdraw him?? And shouldn't they actually TRY to help him?? We are really feeling they would rather save their reputation as being one of the best schools vs helping him. Lets get rid of the bad kid before anyone finds out! They would rather pay thousands of dollars to sweep him under the rug and not deal with things.
difficult child is very intelligent and the month before he left had a+ on all work. He was doing better with learning to deal with feelings and "turn his brain off" when it told him to say or do something bad. His para was excellent with him. They freaked because he said he did not deserve to live and wanted someone to kill him. When we went for his intake at this program he told them he was sad at times and is why he said that. He has not said it since and his psychiatrist is seeing him tomorrow because we are seeing depression and will probably add another medication. he did not say he wanted someone to kill him in front of the class and did it in private with the principal. We are being cautious a d have a safety plan in place since he said those things but he has not said it since. (but does say he is sad) I do agree he is depressed so I hope we can find a medication to help. He wants to go back to his regular school and the fact he is not going there this week also makes him sad.
Sorry, I am a but all over with this post. I am just fed up with the school. I need advice on what to about this withdrawal form and does it mean they have no responsibility for him if I do sign it???
At the pediatrician he tested difficult child for strep and influenza (he had flu shot but had all the classic symptoms) and said if negative he could go but we had to make it quick so I could get him home to rest. They were negative so off we went. He did ok during the intake and as we were meeting with the new psychiatrist they had (a 2nd one they added) and the someone came in to tell me 4 people from difficult child school were there forour IEP meeting.
I was livid!!! There was NEVER a discussion that we would be going over his IEP. AND this was at this partial program and not at his school. I was mentally and physically exhausted and voiced my annoyance while they insisted I knew we were doing this. I was so out of tiny this point that I let them go over it. I could not focus on anything and they knew it and finally a 1/2 later they rushed to finish. They said we would meet again in 30 days and I said at that meeting we needed to re-evaluate everything and work towards him coming back. I still do not have a copy if anything reviewed that day. We left and by the time I got difficult child home it had been 6 hours we were out doing all this including picking up medication for an ear infection he had. He now had a temp of 103 and looked so sick. His temp spiked to 104.3 and I know it was because we over did it. The following Monday he started at the partial program and went all week till Christmas break.
I just got an e-mail from our school district for me to fill out a withdrawal form to be dated for Dec 16. I have NOT withdrawn him from there. Are they trying to push him out and if I sign this is he gone from their school? I am not comfortable filling this out at all. They have done nothing for him. They gave him a para educator Oct 31 who he adored and she helped so much. Other than that and putting him thru the evaluation for an IEP they have not put any other measures in place. We had a bad reaction to Vyvanse. Which caused his behavior to deteriorate again at school until we started daytrana. After daytrana it got better but they still felt he needed more help than they could provide. I was ok putting him in this program since the school was paying this time but now I am wondering if they are ever going to let him come back. (the first time he went in oct after the school urged us to try it to help him WE had to pay and our insurance only paid for 6 days at 50% and we paid $2500 out of pocket and was a waste of time since insurance would not allow him to stay longer which hE needed) they said we will meet every 30 days to go over IEP so why would I have to fill out a form to withdraw him?? And shouldn't they actually TRY to help him?? We are really feeling they would rather save their reputation as being one of the best schools vs helping him. Lets get rid of the bad kid before anyone finds out! They would rather pay thousands of dollars to sweep him under the rug and not deal with things.
difficult child is very intelligent and the month before he left had a+ on all work. He was doing better with learning to deal with feelings and "turn his brain off" when it told him to say or do something bad. His para was excellent with him. They freaked because he said he did not deserve to live and wanted someone to kill him. When we went for his intake at this program he told them he was sad at times and is why he said that. He has not said it since and his psychiatrist is seeing him tomorrow because we are seeing depression and will probably add another medication. he did not say he wanted someone to kill him in front of the class and did it in private with the principal. We are being cautious a d have a safety plan in place since he said those things but he has not said it since. (but does say he is sad) I do agree he is depressed so I hope we can find a medication to help. He wants to go back to his regular school and the fact he is not going there this week also makes him sad.
Sorry, I am a but all over with this post. I am just fed up with the school. I need advice on what to about this withdrawal form and does it mean they have no responsibility for him if I do sign it???
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