Ok so I'm going to try and keep this as short as possible because it could go on for days if I included every detail. We have an almost 3yo girl who we cannot for the life of us figure out what is wrong with. I have scoured the internet for months and she doesnt fit into any 1 disorder, she has biys and pieces of many things. I'll try to compile the best list I can: ▪︎She has the facial features of a child with fetal alcohol syndrome, except rather than a small head, her head is absolutely enormous. Like unproportional to the rest of her body and it is totally flat in the back, and her body just did start to grow in the last couple months. She was turning 2yo still wearing 9-12mo size clothes. ▪︎She started speaking/saying words and then abruptly stopped saying anything at all for about 6mo, and now she speaks and tells and talks in sentences like a normal child about half the time, and then boom, out of nowhere she either will not speak at all and just stares at you with a blank or hateful look or she will half way whisper/speak extremely soft to where her voice goes in and out and only says one word. ▪︎She has begun to tiptoe walk ▪︎she obsesses over bodily functions, any time she plays with dolls or stuffed animals she pokes around on their groin/bottom and just keeps repeating either "baby poop" "baby pee" or "ew, nasty, nasty poop, nasty baby poop" and has been caught playing in her own poop/pee before or trying to, or pulling soiled paper out of the bathroom trash and playing with it or wiping it on her face. Her bio mom has complained of her constantly taking off her diaper and throwing her poop everywhere or taking it off and pooping and peeing on things. ▪︎She knows how to use the potty, and spent an entire week completely out of diapers, in panties and accident free even over night, and has known how to use the potty for close to a year and completely regressed and refuses to use the potty at all now. ▪︎she rocks back and forth and repeats words or phrases non stop ▪︎she's very sneaky and will watch you intently if she wants to do something she isn't allowed to do and will wait till the moment you take your eyes off of her to do things she shouldn't and then runs and tries to pretend she wasnt doing it when you look at her ▪︎she hits, and lies about being hit. She will sit on the other side of the room from her sister and point at her and say "she hit me" ▪︎she walks face first into EVERYTHING and hits her head on everything. She walks face first into walls and tables and when she lays down to go to sleep she gets right up to her pillow and then flops and slams her head into the wall and then lays completely against the wall on her pillow ▪︎she behaves inappropriately with toys and her hands, we don't see any signs of abuse, we suspect maybe she has seen the actions on tv somewhere or seen someone else behaving inappropriately ▪︎shes extremely destructive ▪︎she physically can not be still if she's awake. The only time she is still is if shes asleep, she canca even sit still in your lap to read a book. She rolls and flips and gets up on the couch and then back in the floor back and forth and walks in circles, she won't sit and play in one spot either ▪︎she acts like an absolute nut any time there are new people present or in public, like, snorted a line of sugar and chugged an energy drink looking behavior. Reaches in people's plate, throws people's plates in the floor, climbs on tables, knocks stuff over, yells over people and laughs, ignores instruction, gets in people's face, hits etc ▪︎she tries to eat everything, food, fastfood, socks, toys.. ▪︎she has an insatiable thirst ▪︎was hyper as she is, sometimes out of the blue she will stop what shes doing and stand/sit totally still and just stare at you, like not a normal stare either, I mean she stares like shes imagining ripping your face off. Its creepy as . An absolutely terrifying and hateful expression on her face. I've had nightmares about it. ▪︎she has been hitting every single milestone extremely late ▪︎she is horribly clumsy/ uncoordinated, will walk straight off the end of the porch and fall without learning[she'll do it again and act surprised that she fell every time] ▪︎she hasn't established ANY object permanence yet. If she watches someone walk into another room or they simply walk behind her, she has no idea where they've gone and will ask over and over again where they are. ▪︎she has no attention span at all, the kid can't pay attention to save her life The most concerning part of all of this is that it's inconsistent. Like, she absolutely has control over most of this behavior. She behaves very well sometimes and for certain people, and then sometimes or for some people she is absolutely horrid. So that is what stumps me the most. She exhibits so many signs of autism, adhd, Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS), etc. But it's intermittent. Wth is that? Theres no such thing as part time autism.