ok so I’m new to this forum. I have four boys and all are great kids but one stands out more than the others. He has always had difficulty in school not wanting to complete work, not wanting to go to school, not wanting to get ready on time, then when he landed an apprenticeship job he was always making his dad wait for him to drive him to work. Then one day he was told to stay gone from work. This went on for a month until I told him to ask for his EI papers and to go on unemployment. He did, and he has been on short term seasonal layoff for 37 weeks. In the mean time, he does not shower regularly, you have to force him or he is in his pyjamas all day. He plays his computer games all day. Ever since he was a kid I would find booger’s under the couch on the wall, but he would always say “ that’s not me.” But now I find them all over his desk. His dirty clothes sit in the floor, he will tell me he has no dirty clothes, I will ask him to wash his bedding and it takes st least ten times to get him to do it, he is gaping in his room, and I have asked him to do it outside and he doesn’t do I took the vape stuff out of his room, he refuses to join in family gatherings to the point you have to force him, daily he has glasses and dishes in his room and you have to ask and ask until there are 19 glasses in his room and you blow up and then he brings them down. I recently found a gym bag in his room full of S&M stuff in it and I found dresses, and girls night shirts and banana hammocks in his drawer. He never leaves his room, he does not have a girlfriend that I know of. I’m so confused. He is very smart and mostly incredibly sweet.