I need help .My son started therapy today (yeah for him!). He is 23 and currently living at home. We don't allow drugs or alcohol in our home . The therapist referred him to a psychiatrist to get medications and he said it was for antianxiety medications which are highly addictive. He is at high risk for substance abuse, smoked pot in college every day for a whole semester and then a whole lot the remaining 3 semesters . He spends hundreds of dollars on an online card game, so there is addiction there already. Daughter (20) also decided she wants help now (depression, possible Borderline (BPD) my assessment, depressed, self injury, anxiety). She has been on 3 different antidepressants, and had an atavan, Klonopin, and a 3 Rd anti anxiety medication in her possession at one time. She has been suicidal for years and told me she would do it with pills at one point, so I made her give me 2 bottles and only let her keep the atavan. That has been gone since May and she did use them as prescribed. With her self injury behavior and depression she is at high risk for substance abuse and for suicide as well. Husband is drug addict in recovery (27 years), I am an alcoholic in recovery (28 years), and so genetically both kids are predisposed . I also go to Al Anon. I want to extend my rule for no drugs and no alcohol in house to prescribed substances that are highly addictive. I don't want atavan, Klonopin etc in my home which is my sanctuary. Both adult children currently live here. Daughter wants help now, she says after refusing it for a long time. But, the help she looked for is a psychiatrist, so she just wants medications, no therapy . She now thinks she has ADHD and wants drugs for that (Ritalin, adderall) . Those are addictive, too. Is it ok for me to say that I don't want any of those drugs (ie if they are addictive) in my home or is that working against my children getting better?