I am certainly going to try. His father was Bipolar and abused substances as well. I tried to keep our family together because when it was good it was really good. Looking back I think I should have maybe left him sooner. It is very eerie how he has so many of the same characteristics. I divorced him when my son was 17. I have 2 other children and older daughter and a younger son and they are doing quite well. I had to have my son leave my property because he had put his deceased father's camper on it and I was fine with that until he then moved in a girl who would bring her 3 kids over and they were selling and doing drugs in front of them. I just could not have that. It breaks my heart and it was a horrible ordeal. At the moment I am not even sure where he is living.Yes, my son was both for a period of time when he also took drugs. It's common for people with mental illness, but not actually common for programs that claim they are dual diagnosis to actually be dual help. Maybe things are a bit different in these past few years, but I doubt it, I'd try to steer your child more towards help for his mental illness if you have any influence if I were you.
Most likely it wouldn't have made much of a difference, I think. My son's father exercised his visitation rights very sporadically as my son was growing up. I remember wondering for so many years, how could it be possible that my son has these couple of really rough personality traits which are just like his father's when he's had so much more exposure to other ways from other people? Still makes no sense other than we are born with certain dispositions, we see it in ours and others children, how they are so much different from each other.I think I should have maybe left him sooner