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<blockquote data-quote="Feeling Sad" data-source="post: 662001" data-attributes="member: 19245"><p>Thank you Childofmine. The only the police would help me to have him removed is either serving an eviction or a restraining order. I was going to do the less serious, an eviction, but after hearing him having command hallucinations about killing me, I had to go with a restraining order. Evictions take at least 45 days. My sister growing up had command hallucinations that she complied with. Hearing him argue with his voices was a big game changer.</p><p></p><p>He is not allowed to come near me at home or work and cannot contact me via phone. When he broke the bottle and held it out to me threatening me if I called the police, it was 2 weeks earlier. I was told then that I needed more than an eviction. I went upstairs to start a restraining order, but the woman said to think it over because I might not ever see him again. I went home not knowing what to do. I decided to wait 2 weeks until I was done teaching for Summer break. It was my first official day off that he argued with his voices.</p><p></p><p>My youngest son is not on the restraining order. He is in danger by proxi, but never was threatened. He is safe at my home by my restraining order. I had hoped to go for a conservatorship if he was involuntarily hospitalized. Oh, well. Although he does not use phones, we got him one with my youngest son's number on it. I will not let my youngest son see him except in a hospital or at a police station. But, he can call him for help or family support. No calls, but I have had several hang-ups on the house phone. I think that he is mad or wove the incident into his delusions.</p><p></p><p>If he does call, I will talk to him. That you for the advice about planning my words in advance. My 2 therapists have both said that I will see him again. He will either be arrested or be taken in for strange behavior. That is a horrible thing to have on my wish list as a mother, but if that is what it takes... The third option is he goes for help on his own to qualify for SSI or housing. That, of course, is my favorite. My youngest is filing a missing persons report because he is mentally ill and we do not know where he is. The police or hospital will then have to contact my youngest son if he is brought in.</p><p></p><p>The police told me to bring in a log with approximate dates of all strange or threatening behavior, which I am compiling. This will help in involuntary hospitalization if he is brought in. I also read that we want to request the mental health court.</p><p></p><p>Thank you for your kind words. Yes...I am taking it day by day. I need to go back to work as an elementary special education teacher soon. I hope that I have the strength! It is very challenging and I feel totally burned out. I will keep on trying my best, with times of resolve for my youngest son's safety and tears for my eldest and his current plight. My therapist called it Sophie's choice. I find it very difficult to think about my own safety. I was told that I have been numbing out because I have gone through life threats since I was 11. But, I force myself to read and see reality. My mind still does not accept that my son would ever hurt me but voices, especially untreated, can compel them to comply. I am still very jumpy in my house, so part of me must believe it could happen. Thank you for your help. This site is wonderful. I feel so much better knowing that I am not alone. Take care.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Feeling Sad, post: 662001, member: 19245"] Thank you Childofmine. The only the police would help me to have him removed is either serving an eviction or a restraining order. I was going to do the less serious, an eviction, but after hearing him having command hallucinations about killing me, I had to go with a restraining order. Evictions take at least 45 days. My sister growing up had command hallucinations that she complied with. Hearing him argue with his voices was a big game changer. He is not allowed to come near me at home or work and cannot contact me via phone. When he broke the bottle and held it out to me threatening me if I called the police, it was 2 weeks earlier. I was told then that I needed more than an eviction. I went upstairs to start a restraining order, but the woman said to think it over because I might not ever see him again. I went home not knowing what to do. I decided to wait 2 weeks until I was done teaching for Summer break. It was my first official day off that he argued with his voices. My youngest son is not on the restraining order. He is in danger by proxi, but never was threatened. He is safe at my home by my restraining order. I had hoped to go for a conservatorship if he was involuntarily hospitalized. Oh, well. Although he does not use phones, we got him one with my youngest son's number on it. I will not let my youngest son see him except in a hospital or at a police station. But, he can call him for help or family support. No calls, but I have had several hang-ups on the house phone. I think that he is mad or wove the incident into his delusions. If he does call, I will talk to him. That you for the advice about planning my words in advance. My 2 therapists have both said that I will see him again. He will either be arrested or be taken in for strange behavior. That is a horrible thing to have on my wish list as a mother, but if that is what it takes... The third option is he goes for help on his own to qualify for SSI or housing. That, of course, is my favorite. My youngest is filing a missing persons report because he is mentally ill and we do not know where he is. The police or hospital will then have to contact my youngest son if he is brought in. The police told me to bring in a log with approximate dates of all strange or threatening behavior, which I am compiling. This will help in involuntary hospitalization if he is brought in. I also read that we want to request the mental health court. Thank you for your kind words. Yes...I am taking it day by day. I need to go back to work as an elementary special education teacher soon. I hope that I have the strength! It is very challenging and I feel totally burned out. I will keep on trying my best, with times of resolve for my youngest son's safety and tears for my eldest and his current plight. My therapist called it Sophie's choice. I find it very difficult to think about my own safety. I was told that I have been numbing out because I have gone through life threats since I was 11. But, I force myself to read and see reality. My mind still does not accept that my son would ever hurt me but voices, especially untreated, can compel them to comply. I am still very jumpy in my house, so part of me must believe it could happen. Thank you for your help. This site is wonderful. I feel so much better knowing that I am not alone. Take care. [/QUOTE]
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