Final Update To My Story

Discussion in 'General Parenting' started by BloodiedButUnbowed, Nov 7, 2018.

  1. BloodiedButUnbowed

    BloodiedButUnbowed Active Member

    Friends,

    My wife and I are separated and are on a path that will likely lead to divorce, meaning my time as a stepparent to DS and YS is soon coming to an end.

    Reconciliation is still a possibility at this point but I don't think that would be either a healthy or a correct choice for me to make.

    I will remain on the board to offer my feedback and experience to other members who may benefit from it.

    Thank you all for being here for me over the past few years.
     
  2. AppleCori

    AppleCori Well-Known Member

    I’m very sorry to hear of this, BBU.

    How are you doing/coping with everything?

    I’m glad you feel comfortable enough to share this very painful time in your life here.

    Words are inadequate at a time like this (at least, mine are).

    We are here for you.

    Apple
     
  3. BloodiedButUnbowed

    BloodiedButUnbowed Active Member

    I am actually doing quite well.

    This should have happened long ago.

    I am looking forward to the future, dealing with the pain, and working on healing myself.

    No dating for at least one year OR until I feel healed and ready to date again - whichever comes first.
     
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  4. recoveringenabler

    recoveringenabler Well-Known Member Staff Member

    I'm sorry to hear this too BBU. Endings are tough...but eventually, the sun shines on our new beginnings. Often making the choice is the most difficult part. I hope you feel some relief.

    You've handled this situation extremely well, with grace & strength & compassion, no matter the outcome, you can walk away knowing you did your very best.

    Your feedback is invaluable so I'm glad you'll be staying with us......

    Sending big hugs......
     
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  5. RN0441

    RN0441 100% better than I was but not at 100% yet

    Sorry to hear this but happy that you are starting a new chapter in your life.

    Endings always mean new beginnings.

    You have been a wonderful strength to your wife dealing with her difficult children so you should feel very proud of that.

    We are happy that you are sticking around!
     
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  6. KTMom91

    KTMom91 Well-Known Member

    Sorry to hear this. Divorce is rarely an easy decision, but you sound strong and ready to face the future.
     
  7. Baggy Bags

    Baggy Bags Active Member

    (((hugs)))

    Reading your posts, I always thought how lucky your wife was to have you.
    I hope she will be okay and find her peace too.
     
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  8. Littleboylost

    Littleboylost On the road unwanted to travel

    You are on a new and healthy path. It shows in your posts. There is something amazing waiting for you in your life! You were a great wife and a wonderful support. Be good to yourself.
     
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  9. BloodiedButUnbowed

    BloodiedButUnbowed Active Member

    Well, surprise surprise, wife and I are reconciling and so far so good. Will keep thread updated. Thanks for all the support and well wishes.
     
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  10. Elsi

    Elsi Active Member

    Best of luck to you!
     
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  11. ForeverSpring

    ForeverSpring Well-Known Member

    I wish you both the best! Please dont forget us!
     
  12. pasajes4

    pasajes4 Well-Known Member

    Wishing you guys the best.
     
  13. Baggy Bags

    Baggy Bags Active Member

    My relationship with my partner is so much stronger and better in many ways after our almost-divorce.
    I wish the same for you!
     
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  14. Triedntrue

    Triedntrue Active Member

    I hope everything works out for both of you. Stay strong. Hope you continue to post.
     
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  15. BloodiedButUnbowed

    BloodiedButUnbowed Active Member

    Baggy Bags, your story seems to be mine. We are doing much better than I ever would have anticipated. We'll see how it unfolds, but I am feeling better about the marriage than ever before.
     
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  16. ForeverSpring

    ForeverSpring Well-Known Member

    Wishing you so much luck BBU!!
     
  17. AppleCori

    AppleCori Well-Known Member

    Just saw the part about the reconciliation.

    Glad things are working out well!