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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 759862" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I feel sorry for myself for all of the problems and all that I have suffered. I feel that it was a cruel blow how my great love turned out. I also feel that we adopted children who needed families, needed love, needed care, needed homes. If I had it to do over again, I would do it.</p><p></p><p>I think this whole topic involves existential questions. Why do we parent? What is the purpose of life? Some people believe that all of life is to prepare oneself to die and that the rewards of living well and purposefully and meaningful come at death. In other words, the purpose of our lives is not for happiness but to refine our character or even our souls.</p><p></p><p>Our children are not products or possessions. They are souls too. They live not to give us happiness or any other thing, but to live according to their purpose too.</p><p></p><p>I think I need to get my ego out of this. I don't deserve anything, good or bad. I try not to regret my choices, even painful ones. Oh, of course, I lament and I whine, but what's the point of regret? All of us only have the moment which is right now. Why give it up? </p><p></p><p>I think there is great love on this forum. And great devotion and hard work. I don't think any of us would do it differently if we had a chance. I would not.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 759862, member: 18958"] I feel sorry for myself for all of the problems and all that I have suffered. I feel that it was a cruel blow how my great love turned out. I also feel that we adopted children who needed families, needed love, needed care, needed homes. If I had it to do over again, I would do it. I think this whole topic involves existential questions. Why do we parent? What is the purpose of life? Some people believe that all of life is to prepare oneself to die and that the rewards of living well and purposefully and meaningful come at death. In other words, the purpose of our lives is not for happiness but to refine our character or even our souls. Our children are not products or possessions. They are souls too. They live not to give us happiness or any other thing, but to live according to their purpose too. I think I need to get my ego out of this. I don't deserve anything, good or bad. I try not to regret my choices, even painful ones. Oh, of course, I lament and I whine, but what's the point of regret? All of us only have the moment which is right now. Why give it up? I think there is great love on this forum. And great devotion and hard work. I don't think any of us would do it differently if we had a chance. I would not. [/QUOTE]
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