volunteerchild
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My son was born in India. Allegedly, he went to an orphanage due to parents death with siblings at six months. One brother adopted out at the one year mark. One brother remained post adoption. Allegedly, parents death was murder/suicide but I have no proof. An Indian American couple adopted my son and his sister and took them to Texas. My son and I are American citizens. Sister was 5 and my son was three. It didn't work out and they said there was a trauma bond between the sister and my son and they placed both up for adoption and split them up. I am in contact with the new mother of the sister and they live in Minnesota. Sister has a diagnosis of depression and ptsd as well as slow processing speed. She had a history of hitting and has horrific memories. My son and his sister do not speak although they are aware of each other. Her doctor does not advise contact with my son until they are grown. I adopted my son at age 5.
Except for daycare, my son did not have any significant issues. He threw a chair at daycare. He did have some issues with eating, walking and speaking correctly. Like the sister, he did say inappropriate things about killing and pretending to shoot a gun (allegedly the sister witnessed the murder/suicide). He also told everyone about what his sister had said about the death of his birth parents. So, I held him back a year to catch up. He did well in Kindergarten. He did very well in First Grade. In the first grade, it became obvious my son had some attention issues though and was messy and rude to the teachers etc. Also, I travel for my job (no I can't get one in the USA but I have a home in Texas). My son was in kindergarten and first grade overseas. Three days before his 8th birthday in March, the country we were in locked the country down for covid for 12 weeks and they could not even go outside to play. School shifted to online and my son grew to hate school and hate reading (which is now a trigger for bad behavior). He can read well but won't. He has learned Arabic. He can even write in cursive as well as Arabic but won't.
When the kids could go to the park, I took my son to the psychiatrist and the TOVAR test indicated ADHD (no question) and depression which they blamed on being in lockdown for covid. My son is also very immature and prefers the under 5 age set who avoid him now that he is big. My son was given risperdahl and straterra. Second grade started and my son was able to go in person. Then the government locked the schools down again and shifted online. In December 2020, he lost it while online and started hitting me and kicking me while the class watched in horror because I told him to watch the teacher. His Nanny pulled him off of me and we took him to the doctor who put him on abilify with the straterra. He was removed from the school due to what he did to me and the whole class watching. I shifted him to powerhomeschool online (which is struggling to finish) since he could take a test still to go to third grade.
I had to move in March to a new country in East Africa. My son tore up furniture, door frames, gave me a concussion, scratched up me and his nanny and squeezed his cat and I finally put him in the local hospital. They put him on two older bipolar medications and took him off of his other medications. They told him he had bipolar and they told me he had ADHD and a conduct disorder. The medicine makes him eat a lot and sleep a lot and developed a bad screen addiction while in the hospital that he now fights over. He refuses to complete his second grade work. And the local schools will not take him due to incidents of violence in the last six months. The therapy they gave him was telling him not to fight with his mom, his nanny or his cat and he of course said okay. he did try to hit once since he came home and he screamed a lot. He maybe slightly better but not sure. He refuses to talk about his adoption or issues.
If I could find a boarding school or resident school that would take him near by I would put him in it since I think that's his only way to finish school or he will get further behind. If I have to take him to the USA I will but I will only be able to see him every three months or so in person and of course daily by skype or facetime. I am told there are few schools for his age or grade. My insurance and job will pay for his school. Does anyone have any recommendations? Any advice will be appreciated.
Except for daycare, my son did not have any significant issues. He threw a chair at daycare. He did have some issues with eating, walking and speaking correctly. Like the sister, he did say inappropriate things about killing and pretending to shoot a gun (allegedly the sister witnessed the murder/suicide). He also told everyone about what his sister had said about the death of his birth parents. So, I held him back a year to catch up. He did well in Kindergarten. He did very well in First Grade. In the first grade, it became obvious my son had some attention issues though and was messy and rude to the teachers etc. Also, I travel for my job (no I can't get one in the USA but I have a home in Texas). My son was in kindergarten and first grade overseas. Three days before his 8th birthday in March, the country we were in locked the country down for covid for 12 weeks and they could not even go outside to play. School shifted to online and my son grew to hate school and hate reading (which is now a trigger for bad behavior). He can read well but won't. He has learned Arabic. He can even write in cursive as well as Arabic but won't.
When the kids could go to the park, I took my son to the psychiatrist and the TOVAR test indicated ADHD (no question) and depression which they blamed on being in lockdown for covid. My son is also very immature and prefers the under 5 age set who avoid him now that he is big. My son was given risperdahl and straterra. Second grade started and my son was able to go in person. Then the government locked the schools down again and shifted online. In December 2020, he lost it while online and started hitting me and kicking me while the class watched in horror because I told him to watch the teacher. His Nanny pulled him off of me and we took him to the doctor who put him on abilify with the straterra. He was removed from the school due to what he did to me and the whole class watching. I shifted him to powerhomeschool online (which is struggling to finish) since he could take a test still to go to third grade.
I had to move in March to a new country in East Africa. My son tore up furniture, door frames, gave me a concussion, scratched up me and his nanny and squeezed his cat and I finally put him in the local hospital. They put him on two older bipolar medications and took him off of his other medications. They told him he had bipolar and they told me he had ADHD and a conduct disorder. The medicine makes him eat a lot and sleep a lot and developed a bad screen addiction while in the hospital that he now fights over. He refuses to complete his second grade work. And the local schools will not take him due to incidents of violence in the last six months. The therapy they gave him was telling him not to fight with his mom, his nanny or his cat and he of course said okay. he did try to hit once since he came home and he screamed a lot. He maybe slightly better but not sure. He refuses to talk about his adoption or issues.
If I could find a boarding school or resident school that would take him near by I would put him in it since I think that's his only way to finish school or he will get further behind. If I have to take him to the USA I will but I will only be able to see him every three months or so in person and of course daily by skype or facetime. I am told there are few schools for his age or grade. My insurance and job will pay for his school. Does anyone have any recommendations? Any advice will be appreciated.