I would like to say a better title would have been : difficult child's .............Why is it so hard to get away from them. If you go back and re-read your previous posts: If any "friend" had lied and stolen so much to either of you, would you call that person a "friend", No, you would b saying: "Who"? Please understand that is the point people are trying to advise you on. There still seems to be both excuses of the "why" help needs to be given and way too much interest in the "how" the difficult child is doing on a daily basis. Only time and distance will allow you to see the whole picture. Will he mature out of it? You just don't know. However, if you keep responding to every cry for help he may never outgrow his tendencies and then you can get "stuck" for life. Much less painful to go ahead and rip off the bandage now!