Well today AS/Difficult Child says he doesn't feel he needs in patient rehab, he feels he needs and anger management course and that is all. He has not been contributing in any way to the household what so ever. Continues to come home high. Has missed school and been late all but 1 day in 3 weeks...and we all know where this is headed. Failure to achieve his GED. We agreed if he was willing to accept that he needs help and goes to long term rehab that he could stay with us until he was admitted. He has done nothing but sabotage the admission efforts. At a meeting this week his counsellors indicated that he was too "pre-contemplative" for them to feel he is ready for long term rehab. His responses are that his parents are making him go etc. etc. etc. They still feel he is unable to mange independently or hold down a job and needs mental health help. But he has the precious capacity to decide what he needs as far as help. I don't know what adolescent youth with a suspected underlying MH disorder and a diagnosis and history of CD would be anything but "Pre-contemplative" about in patient long term care. The model they use is not a useful model for adolescent wirh suspected mixed disorders. Understanding the stages of addiction and recovery | Adfam | Family drug support - information for the families of drug and alcohol users We have asked the school for an attendance record to date, we have told his couselors if they so choose to continue with the admission process to long term care by all means go ahead. At least he will know what is available should he chose to REALY seek assistance. Well can't. Change the system so it's time to change our approach; it's time for Mr Man to live the life he has invested in. Get a rooming house, and get on social assistance. We are planning on having this talk with him tonight and giving him 60 days to be out. He is 18 Oct 20 and we do not have to provide and eviction notice. He does not have a key and we have told him he is our guest. The system will make us feel so guilty so give us some strength folks. This isn't going to be easy. Not an easy thing to do but anything else would simply be enabling his behaviour and encouraging his decisions and delusion that he is fine.