im not sure where to put this. Here or WC. Not too long ago, we moved several hours to be with our adult son and his family. My husband is semi retired. We are 25 minutes away from son. The move was extremely difficult. When they married we paid for the usual stuff...rehearsal dinner, band at wedding. Maybe something else...don’t recall. We also paid for their nice honeymoon. We are generous at Xmas. We gave him a very large present for one of his milestone birthdays ...something for the entire family. When they originally bought their home her parents helped them with the deposit. We don’t know all the details, but he may have partially paid them back. This home is five mins away from her parents. He and his wife are very responsible and hard working. They have two young children. Now, they wish to move to a larger home. We have been generous with them over the years, but I suppose moreso with our Difficult Child daughter. She has various special needs and is considered disabled. They are looking at homes about forty minutes away from our place and about twenty minutes away from the other grandparents. I’m torn if I should offer to help them financially. They have not asked. Since my husband is semi retired , the timing is not ideal. But, we could help a little. And I feel like it would be a lovely gesture. Yet, I feel particularly strained that the areas they are seriously considering are kind of far from our home. It is particularly noticeable since our son complains about the 25 min drive currently. A 40 minute drive, I suppose, would seem terrible in his mind. And he hasn’t said word one about it (the extra distance). He doesn’t truly have to...but it makes me feel sad . This distance for us was not and is not even remotely on his radar. Plus, we aren’t getting any younger. So, down the road that drive would be hard for us. I suppose, at some point we could move again ourselves if absolutely needed. We get along great with our grandkids. Any thoughts? What have other people done with their adult children? He is truly very good with money and hard working. But he has a job that doesn’t pay a lot. I feel strange about this. I can’t fully express why. But bottom line they hope to move twice as far away from us as they are now, even though they already currently consider the drive far. We have not been factored into their decision one bit...the distance to her parents home May have been more considered...I’m not sure. They want good value on a larger home and to be closer to work. Understandable. Feeling weird/awkward. Thinking out loud, I suppose. * Disclaimer: due to the personal nature of this post, there is a small chance I will ask for some or all of it to be removed down the road.