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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember1" data-source="post: 759459" data-attributes="member: 23706"><p>I am so very sorry and know first hand the grief of a missing child. It is so hard.</p><p></p><p>I go to Nar Anon and before that I always got in the car looking frantically for my daugjter, sure of the worst.</p><p></p><p>I have since gathered tools so that I am able to be much less reactive. Always? No. But usually I can be by reading the tools and my Nar Anon book. I know darn well that my daughter, who is not clean and is homeless, is the only person who can help herself. I know that my worrying doesn't change anything. I learned how to be calmer and to take care of the one person I can....myself. My life is so much better now even though Kay is a mess. She knows she can only come to us if she wants to go to rehab and for nothing else. As it is, we spent half of our retirement on her and it did nothing. And she isn't even nice to us.</p><p></p><p>I just threw in some stuff that helped me. I really like my SESH book from NarAnon. There is a reading for every day of the year and the readings use all the tools. If interested, Amazon has it. If not you will find a method that works for you.</p><p></p><p>Please do not allow your son to suck all the oxygen out of your world, like we let our daughter do. We had no time for each other, the other kids, hobbies, fun, anything. And our deprivation did not change Kay.</p><p></p><p>I offer prayers, love and hugs. You may want to try Nar Anon or private therapy or both.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember1, post: 759459, member: 23706"] I am so very sorry and know first hand the grief of a missing child. It is so hard. I go to Nar Anon and before that I always got in the car looking frantically for my daugjter, sure of the worst. I have since gathered tools so that I am able to be much less reactive. Always? No. But usually I can be by reading the tools and my Nar Anon book. I know darn well that my daughter, who is not clean and is homeless, is the only person who can help herself. I know that my worrying doesn't change anything. I learned how to be calmer and to take care of the one person I can....myself. My life is so much better now even though Kay is a mess. She knows she can only come to us if she wants to go to rehab and for nothing else. As it is, we spent half of our retirement on her and it did nothing. And she isn't even nice to us. I just threw in some stuff that helped me. I really like my SESH book from NarAnon. There is a reading for every day of the year and the readings use all the tools. If interested, Amazon has it. If not you will find a method that works for you. Please do not allow your son to suck all the oxygen out of your world, like we let our daughter do. We had no time for each other, the other kids, hobbies, fun, anything. And our deprivation did not change Kay. I offer prayers, love and hugs. You may want to try Nar Anon or private therapy or both. [/QUOTE]
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