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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 760728" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Dear Helpless</p><p></p><p>I think it is possible that he refers to your new home as a mansion to guilt you. Using that term makes you feel like you have all of these resources, and he has none. This is designed to manipulate you and to make you feel bad, and tug at your heartstrings if you do not bring him home. This is what I think.</p><p></p><p>He is STILL missing the point. He left your home several times because he did things you could not tolerate, or he ran off to do things that you would not tolerate in your home, especially in light of the fact that you have younger children. All of this he knows. He wants to overlook this reality--and he wants you to forget it, too.</p><p></p><p>You HAVE tried to help him over and over again. I am getting repetitive but I want to make the point. What he has chosen to do is to expose himself and the family to bad people and bad behavior. I am not being harsh. I like your son a lot. I just think he is immature and he needs to begin to make the link between his behavior and choices--and the consequences that he is living.</p><p></p><p>I know that you know this. It is just really, really difficult for all of us. I agree with ksm 100 percent that there has to be a way that he is held accountable so that he will begin to hold himself accountable. (outstanding warrant, drug issues, etc.)There are realities here that have nothing at all to do with feelings. In that I agree with Busy.</p><p></p><p>Anyway. I feel bad you are sad but I am glad you posted.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 760728, member: 18958"] Dear Helpless I think it is possible that he refers to your new home as a mansion to guilt you. Using that term makes you feel like you have all of these resources, and he has none. This is designed to manipulate you and to make you feel bad, and tug at your heartstrings if you do not bring him home. This is what I think. He is STILL missing the point. He left your home several times because he did things you could not tolerate, or he ran off to do things that you would not tolerate in your home, especially in light of the fact that you have younger children. All of this he knows. He wants to overlook this reality--and he wants you to forget it, too. You HAVE tried to help him over and over again. I am getting repetitive but I want to make the point. What he has chosen to do is to expose himself and the family to bad people and bad behavior. I am not being harsh. I like your son a lot. I just think he is immature and he needs to begin to make the link between his behavior and choices--and the consequences that he is living. I know that you know this. It is just really, really difficult for all of us. I agree with ksm 100 percent that there has to be a way that he is held accountable so that he will begin to hold himself accountable. (outstanding warrant, drug issues, etc.)There are realities here that have nothing at all to do with feelings. In that I agree with Busy. Anyway. I feel bad you are sad but I am glad you posted. [/QUOTE]
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