It seems when I mention that my 37 year old daughter takes a step forward, I turn around and she has taken 5 steps backwards. So for the forward part, she made her Oct rent. I saw my daughters 44 year old boyfriend last week at a National Night Out gathering, the first time since Memorial Day. He made it a point to come up to me and say hi. It took every bit of his energy to do this. Doing this wore him out so bad that he had to go outside and had a panic attack. Instead of getting mad I felt sorry for him. I studied autism and I am positive he has it. I also talked about autism with a man that is very educated about it, he told me that some autistic people cannot handle strangers at all. My husband and I will always be strangers to him. We have known him going on 9 years and we are strangers and scary to him. We have been told that we are friendly and welcoming, my husband is gentle and kind and more than fair and I am a bit more outspoken. When I got home I did not cry or ask myself over and over again what did I do to cause a person to be so tacky to me, the truth is that he is autistic. I have always been very outgoing so it was hard for me to understand but since I have educated myself a lot more I am not pained or feel agony for him treating us this way. Sometimes he is off and on which to me is even worse. I think he is autistic, ODD, bipolar and ADHD. My daughter makes excuses for him and carries the financial load and I think there maybe some genuine love there on both sides. What ever their situation is for now it seems to be kind of working. The yard seems to be kept up and I heard they did some recent remodeling in the house. Detaching with love is hard to do but it does save some agony. I will always worry about her because she is not balanced. I probably would worry about her some just because it is normal with any child. When I go to bed I am not so pained or feel left out like weeks before. I see families doing things together, son in laws and mother in laws being friends, going on cruises together being kind and respectful to each other. I know it can be done but I do not see it happening with me and for once I am truly ok with it.