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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember1" data-source="post: 759872" data-attributes="member: 23706"><p>Have you ever seen the first step in Nar Anon?</p><p></p><p>"We have admitted that we are powerless over our child's addiction, that our lives have become unmanageable.*</p><p></p><p>NONE of us can do anything other than to find a way to be OUR best while our child/spouse/any loved one is mired with drugs. There are tools in Nar Anon that changed our lives. I don't know if Nar Anon is for you but they saved me and my husband and probably our marriage. Nar Anon is more about us and how to deal with our need to help, our codependency. It isn't about stopping our child's.path because we can't. Only if the addict wants to change will he/ she try to. We still have to live life while this goes.on with our beloveds. I would have thought this was impossible once, but it's possible! You can even have fun without guilt! But it takes time and work. Work on us. Work on surrendering our power over another, which was very hard for me. I like to fix everything for my loved ones. I had to learn that I can't. And I can't even make her appreciate all we have done for her or to love us. This part breaks my heart but I can't make my daughter love me. She can't right.now. She is too sick. I may never get love from her the way that I want it. Tearing up now.....</p><p></p><p>I feel for you and understand how broken you feel. Been there for ten years. Her life almost ruined our lives. All of us. Addiction is a family disease that affects all members.</p><p></p><p>Sending many hugs and prayers. Therapy helped us too. If you don't want to try Nar Anon you still may benefit by reading some of their books and literature. I buy off Amazon.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember1, post: 759872, member: 23706"] Have you ever seen the first step in Nar Anon? "We have admitted that we are powerless over our child's addiction, that our lives have become unmanageable.* NONE of us can do anything other than to find a way to be OUR best while our child/spouse/any loved one is mired with drugs. There are tools in Nar Anon that changed our lives. I don't know if Nar Anon is for you but they saved me and my husband and probably our marriage. Nar Anon is more about us and how to deal with our need to help, our codependency. It isn't about stopping our child's.path because we can't. Only if the addict wants to change will he/ she try to. We still have to live life while this goes.on with our beloveds. I would have thought this was impossible once, but it's possible! You can even have fun without guilt! But it takes time and work. Work on us. Work on surrendering our power over another, which was very hard for me. I like to fix everything for my loved ones. I had to learn that I can't. And I can't even make her appreciate all we have done for her or to love us. This part breaks my heart but I can't make my daughter love me. She can't right.now. She is too sick. I may never get love from her the way that I want it. Tearing up now..... I feel for you and understand how broken you feel. Been there for ten years. Her life almost ruined our lives. All of us. Addiction is a family disease that affects all members. Sending many hugs and prayers. Therapy helped us too. If you don't want to try Nar Anon you still may benefit by reading some of their books and literature. I buy off Amazon. [/QUOTE]
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