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He can't come home for Christmas...
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<blockquote data-quote="CAmom" data-source="post: 7710" data-attributes="member: 1835"><p>Well, all, of course, in the scheme of things, this is only a blip. Just hard to remember sometimes, especially when I start adding him not coming home for Christmas to the pile of disappointments his choices have brought. </p><p></p><p>It's hard NOT to feel cheated--we've put SO much effort into trying to help our son be successful and hoped, perhaps wrongly, to get a "payoff" which would have been no more than watching him walk down that aisle to pick up his diploma and other simple pleasures. I guess that's why the experts say it's not reasonable to expect anyone else, children included, to make you feel happy, proud, etc. </p><p></p><p>I'd been doing fairly well with all this until, last night, after I had carefully lit every decorative Christmas and Hanukhah candle in the house, put on some Christmas music, preparing to try to rev my Christmas spirit back up, all the d-mn outside Christmas lights went out! My poor husband came in to find me sobbing hysterically. </p><p></p><p>I do reflect back sometimes when my son was a newborn, infant, toddler, and preschooler because he was just the easiest, happiest child anyone could imagine. Every day with him was pure joy. He only ever had one temper tantrum in his life, back then, and was so shocked at himself that he never did it again. We felt so fortunate and blessed to have the easy child of all easy child's. If we had only known then that God or some higher power with a questionable sense of humor was only giving us a break during those early years, knowing that they were going to get us with both barrels during his teen years!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="CAmom, post: 7710, member: 1835"] Well, all, of course, in the scheme of things, this is only a blip. Just hard to remember sometimes, especially when I start adding him not coming home for Christmas to the pile of disappointments his choices have brought. It's hard NOT to feel cheated--we've put SO much effort into trying to help our son be successful and hoped, perhaps wrongly, to get a "payoff" which would have been no more than watching him walk down that aisle to pick up his diploma and other simple pleasures. I guess that's why the experts say it's not reasonable to expect anyone else, children included, to make you feel happy, proud, etc. I'd been doing fairly well with all this until, last night, after I had carefully lit every decorative Christmas and Hanukhah candle in the house, put on some Christmas music, preparing to try to rev my Christmas spirit back up, all the d-mn outside Christmas lights went out! My poor husband came in to find me sobbing hysterically. I do reflect back sometimes when my son was a newborn, infant, toddler, and preschooler because he was just the easiest, happiest child anyone could imagine. Every day with him was pure joy. He only ever had one temper tantrum in his life, back then, and was so shocked at himself that he never did it again. We felt so fortunate and blessed to have the easy child of all easy child's. If we had only known then that God or some higher power with a questionable sense of humor was only giving us a break during those early years, knowing that they were going to get us with both barrels during his teen years! [/QUOTE]
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