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He can't come home for Christmas...
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<blockquote data-quote="CAmom" data-source="post: 7715" data-attributes="member: 1835"><p>Thank you all so much for all your positive thoughts and good wishes. I realize that we are very lucky that we're allowed so much access to our son. </p><p></p><p>Without question, our son was smoking a lot of pot and beginning to drink, but he wasn't YET an active addict or alcoholic. Nonetheless, he will, at some time during the period he is there, have to hook up with NA and AA. I think the only reason we're allowed to call/visit him so often is because we weren't determined to be "delinquent parents" such as some who sneak alcohol and/or drugs in the house. But I think, if the PO and/or the program coordinator knew we were doing so or even condoning his pot/alcohol use when he was still with us, our contact via phone and physical visits would be VERY much limited.</p><p></p><p>We've all settled down to an every-other-week visit to see him. As we hoped, once he knew he could count on us for those visits, he stopped stressing about it. Now, he's more focused on the quality of our visits, i.e., wanting to get out of the house for a day and/or weekend pass with us, and he's even beginning to talk about coming home. So, now it's up to him to work up to status to make that happen.</p><p></p><p>Ironically enough, over Christmas when the neighborhood boys assumed he'd be home, the phone started ringing. One particular friend forgot to hang up his phone when he heard our message, so I was treated to about five minutes of him and, apparently, a house full of boys, some of whose names I recognized, laughing and talking with each other. There were several references to "dope" and "rolling one," and I know very well that they were partying and hoping my son was here to party with them. </p><p></p><p>I believe he was very smart to figure out that he's not ready yet to come home. It's clear that pot is very readily available to these kids and that it's all over the place. When we were younger and smoking pot every so often on a Friday or Saturday night, you had to sneak to a nearby town and look up someone named "Peter Rabbit" who hung out on street corners!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="CAmom, post: 7715, member: 1835"] Thank you all so much for all your positive thoughts and good wishes. I realize that we are very lucky that we're allowed so much access to our son. Without question, our son was smoking a lot of pot and beginning to drink, but he wasn't YET an active addict or alcoholic. Nonetheless, he will, at some time during the period he is there, have to hook up with NA and AA. I think the only reason we're allowed to call/visit him so often is because we weren't determined to be "delinquent parents" such as some who sneak alcohol and/or drugs in the house. But I think, if the PO and/or the program coordinator knew we were doing so or even condoning his pot/alcohol use when he was still with us, our contact via phone and physical visits would be VERY much limited. We've all settled down to an every-other-week visit to see him. As we hoped, once he knew he could count on us for those visits, he stopped stressing about it. Now, he's more focused on the quality of our visits, i.e., wanting to get out of the house for a day and/or weekend pass with us, and he's even beginning to talk about coming home. So, now it's up to him to work up to status to make that happen. Ironically enough, over Christmas when the neighborhood boys assumed he'd be home, the phone started ringing. One particular friend forgot to hang up his phone when he heard our message, so I was treated to about five minutes of him and, apparently, a house full of boys, some of whose names I recognized, laughing and talking with each other. There were several references to "dope" and "rolling one," and I know very well that they were partying and hoping my son was here to party with them. I believe he was very smart to figure out that he's not ready yet to come home. It's clear that pot is very readily available to these kids and that it's all over the place. When we were younger and smoking pot every so often on a Friday or Saturday night, you had to sneak to a nearby town and look up someone named "Peter Rabbit" who hung out on street corners! [/QUOTE]
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