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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 738735" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I have been thinking about this thread all day.</p><p></p><p>I am not in contact with my son. My decision.</p><p></p><p>He was not observing any boundaries with us. Police were coming once, twice a week. Because he would not leave our house. He squatted in our other property. Neighbors told us he kicked doors, walls. He would not pay rent. He was stoned all the time.</p><p></p><p>I felt afraid. I felt unsafe in my house, on my property.</p><p></p><p>I was losing my own life.</p><p></p><p>I agree with tl in terms of support and boundaries. But with my son support to him was give a hand, take two arms and a leg. Set a boundary, and crash through that and six more.</p><p></p><p>To him, our support and we, ourselves, were toxic. </p><p></p><p>And then in time he became toxic to me.</p><p></p><p>My son's and my relationship was the greatest of love stories. Now. I dread seeing him. And have to entertain the reality that I will never want to be around him. I am facing that now.</p><p></p><p>My love seems to have been a bad love. I can tolerate writing that now. There was a time I could not.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 738735, member: 18958"] I have been thinking about this thread all day. I am not in contact with my son. My decision. He was not observing any boundaries with us. Police were coming once, twice a week. Because he would not leave our house. He squatted in our other property. Neighbors told us he kicked doors, walls. He would not pay rent. He was stoned all the time. I felt afraid. I felt unsafe in my house, on my property. I was losing my own life. I agree with tl in terms of support and boundaries. But with my son support to him was give a hand, take two arms and a leg. Set a boundary, and crash through that and six more. To him, our support and we, ourselves, were toxic. And then in time he became toxic to me. My son's and my relationship was the greatest of love stories. Now. I dread seeing him. And have to entertain the reality that I will never want to be around him. I am facing that now. My love seems to have been a bad love. I can tolerate writing that now. There was a time I could not. [/QUOTE]
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