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<blockquote data-quote="Albatross" data-source="post: 738764" data-attributes="member: 17720"><p>Trying, I hope all is well. Regarding your original post, I too think your son is trying to manipulate you through threatening you with "awfuls," like seizures, in an attempt to control you.</p><p></p><p>You are not trained in medically caring for a detoxing alcoholic, nor should you be put in that kind of situation. It's not safe for your son, and it's not fair to you.</p><p></p><p>This is not even to mention that he WAS in an environment where he could safely detox. His detox would be a lot easier there too. He chose to walk away from that challenge.</p><p></p><p>His walking away does not make it YOUR problem. It's still HIS problem.</p><p></p><p>As far as the direction this thread has taken, it is very interesting to read.</p><p></p><p>Copa, I really think you need to be kinder to yourself. You didn't teach your son to manipulate. None of us taught our kids that.</p><p></p><p>When our children were toddlers, we treated them as toddlers -- maybe we made motor-boat noises to get them to eat their peas, or whatever.</p><p></p><p>When our grown men behaved like 13-year-olds due to stunting their emotional growth through bad choices, maybe we continued to treat them as adolescents. I know I sure did.</p><p></p><p>We did whatever we could, in horrible circumstances, to try to limit the damage. If it meant meeting them where we thought they were, that's what we did.</p><p></p><p>Then we saw that it didn't work -- because they can't be children anymore.</p><p></p><p>When we saw what we were doing, we learned how to stop.</p><p></p><p>Your quote about thinking strategically and t.l.'s quote about giving up control really ring true for me.</p><p></p><p>How freeing it is, to give up all STRATEGIC thought and all illusions of control, and just relate to others honestly. That's what I strive for.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Albatross, post: 738764, member: 17720"] Trying, I hope all is well. Regarding your original post, I too think your son is trying to manipulate you through threatening you with "awfuls," like seizures, in an attempt to control you. You are not trained in medically caring for a detoxing alcoholic, nor should you be put in that kind of situation. It's not safe for your son, and it's not fair to you. This is not even to mention that he WAS in an environment where he could safely detox. His detox would be a lot easier there too. He chose to walk away from that challenge. His walking away does not make it YOUR problem. It's still HIS problem. As far as the direction this thread has taken, it is very interesting to read. Copa, I really think you need to be kinder to yourself. You didn't teach your son to manipulate. None of us taught our kids that. When our children were toddlers, we treated them as toddlers -- maybe we made motor-boat noises to get them to eat their peas, or whatever. When our grown men behaved like 13-year-olds due to stunting their emotional growth through bad choices, maybe we continued to treat them as adolescents. I know I sure did. We did whatever we could, in horrible circumstances, to try to limit the damage. If it meant meeting them where we thought they were, that's what we did. Then we saw that it didn't work -- because they can't be children anymore. When we saw what we were doing, we learned how to stop. Your quote about thinking strategically and t.l.'s quote about giving up control really ring true for me. How freeing it is, to give up all STRATEGIC thought and all illusions of control, and just relate to others honestly. That's what I strive for. [/QUOTE]
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