I need support so much!! No one understands and it's killing me watching my friends and their children growing and having fun. My 15 yr old daughter adopted daughter was diagnosed with ODD, ADHD, Axiety, and has some learning disabilities. She was just diagnosed with conduct disorder. She lied about me trying to hit her with my car and her dad got temp custody last year. We've had fights over having similar rules, consistent parenting and he would never do family therapy even when she asked him years ago. Over the last year I've only seen her about a dozen times and she's stayed here when dad went on vacation sometimes. He was busy with his life and is hard to get love or attention from and I know she lacked both when she was there. She missed 23 days of school and failed most of her classes, just didn't care. She was stealing money, lying, and he rarely said no to her. A few weeks ago he did and she got violent with him, he called the police and she ended up coming here. We're seeing therapists and CPS got involved because they could see where he held her wrists in their fight and it looked like abuse. I had hip surgery a couple months ago and have been off work and need to go back! I'm running out of money! My boyfriend lives with me and pays so much a month and when he does, then he isn't working. I'm not suppose to leave her alone with him not for fear he'll do anything but that she will say he did. But I can't take her everywhere! He's from out of state, can't get his license cuz of his vision, so he's here unless he goes with me. Now I can't lose him because I'm scared of what she could do to me physically. I feel trapped in my own home and hostage to all of this. My girl has damaged my stuff and then puts it back and seems remorseful. She said she feels nothing, no emotions and she doesn't like it. Omg I lost my sweet happy daughter. She's in a gang, and been in fights, dated probably had sex with all the leaders. I want her at a ranch or someplace but can't afford it. Please someone tell me it will get better although I know it probably won't. Do we just let them do stuff until they are put in jail so we can feel safe? We have a small dog and two cats. The dog hurt his leg recently and never though she would do anything to him but it seems really possible now that I've read about CD. I was so happy to have her back and thought we would do things like before. This is like a ticking bomb and I know it won't turn out good. Like a nightmare I can't wake up from. I'm so scared.