Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
General Discussions
Family of Origin
How to truly go no contact if you sadly must
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 744424" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Again I am glad it worked for you.</p><p></p><p>My mother never met my two youngest kids, and eventually stopped even sending birthday cards to my oldest kids. You can pick on me, but not my kids. My kids had never done anything to her, but she rejected them. If she had been kind to my kids that would have been enough.</p><p></p><p>My mother did not want me around when she was sick or not so I didnt see her. At all. Even when she was terminally ill she did not want me. I did call her, but she had brain cancer and was not herself. Her kiss off to me was to leave me $1 in her will. I wasnt surprised but if i had known my siblings had been rejected that way I would have comforted them. They did nothing, said nothing, didnt even ask me if I wanted a memory. Never said they were sad for me because they werent. I could never have been that way to them. It would have made me feel sad for them. But...see....in this family, i didnt matter. </p><p></p><p>I decided after a contentious birthday party for my father to never talk to them after my father passed on. He lived a long life. When he passed I was 64 and my sister had the gall to say "Now its just the three of us. We have to get along now." Seriously? NOW she wants me???? </p><p></p><p>After thirty years of her cutting me out of her life constantly for mostly idiotic reasons, and calling the police on me every time I wrote her an email that rubbed her the wrong way she wanted me to be in her life because our parents were gone?? After never once telling my mother to be nicer to me?? Again I would have done that for her. No, it wasnt her obligation, but she could have chosen to be kinder to me. She chose not to. </p><p></p><p>How could I feel close to her or warm towards her?</p><p></p><p>It was with relief thay she finally said something to me that was so hideously insulting and outrageous that I texted her "I am done."</p><p></p><p>I have not seen or spoken to her since. I never will. There is nothing to say to each other. She will never realize how much she hurt me throughout my lifetime and didnt care that there were things she could have done to help me feel better. She showed me no compassion. She had no interest in being a kind, compassionate sister and that was her decision. And her option. I dont think she had to do anything, but it didnt endear her to me. We mostly lived our seperate lives, mine much better and more stable than hers. The love I get from my husband and kids and grand and pets is more love than anyone needs.</p><p></p><p>But I am 65 now and hope for wonderful golden years with people who really love me whom I can love back. My Dad lived until 93 and wanted us to all get alonsg so I did so....as much as I could....until he passed. He is no longer on this earth and I no longer need these two people in my life.</p><p></p><p>Thanks for your story <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> i am glad you were able to have a relationship with your family.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 744424, member: 1550"] Again I am glad it worked for you. My mother never met my two youngest kids, and eventually stopped even sending birthday cards to my oldest kids. You can pick on me, but not my kids. My kids had never done anything to her, but she rejected them. If she had been kind to my kids that would have been enough. My mother did not want me around when she was sick or not so I didnt see her. At all. Even when she was terminally ill she did not want me. I did call her, but she had brain cancer and was not herself. Her kiss off to me was to leave me $1 in her will. I wasnt surprised but if i had known my siblings had been rejected that way I would have comforted them. They did nothing, said nothing, didnt even ask me if I wanted a memory. Never said they were sad for me because they werent. I could never have been that way to them. It would have made me feel sad for them. But...see....in this family, i didnt matter. I decided after a contentious birthday party for my father to never talk to them after my father passed on. He lived a long life. When he passed I was 64 and my sister had the gall to say "Now its just the three of us. We have to get along now." Seriously? NOW she wants me???? After thirty years of her cutting me out of her life constantly for mostly idiotic reasons, and calling the police on me every time I wrote her an email that rubbed her the wrong way she wanted me to be in her life because our parents were gone?? After never once telling my mother to be nicer to me?? Again I would have done that for her. No, it wasnt her obligation, but she could have chosen to be kinder to me. She chose not to. How could I feel close to her or warm towards her? It was with relief thay she finally said something to me that was so hideously insulting and outrageous that I texted her "I am done." I have not seen or spoken to her since. I never will. There is nothing to say to each other. She will never realize how much she hurt me throughout my lifetime and didnt care that there were things she could have done to help me feel better. She showed me no compassion. She had no interest in being a kind, compassionate sister and that was her decision. And her option. I dont think she had to do anything, but it didnt endear her to me. We mostly lived our seperate lives, mine much better and more stable than hers. The love I get from my husband and kids and grand and pets is more love than anyone needs. But I am 65 now and hope for wonderful golden years with people who really love me whom I can love back. My Dad lived until 93 and wanted us to all get alonsg so I did so....as much as I could....until he passed. He is no longer on this earth and I no longer need these two people in my life. Thanks for your story :) i am glad you were able to have a relationship with your family. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
General Discussions
Family of Origin
How to truly go no contact if you sadly must
Top