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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 690781" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I truly believe it is a combination. Differently wired people can have many traits that impede them as adults such as unstable moods/emotions, the unreal feeling that everyone's life should be equally fulfilling whether or not one works for it, entitlement, the wrongful idea that parents must provide for them their entire lifetimes and the expectation that society thinks wrong (such as frowning upon poor hygiene and body odor)...and that because society should accept them dirty, they will not change. Some feel inept and it comes out as anger. Some mentally different adults stay angry all the time and blame the terrible world for their own attitudes that hamper them.</p><p></p><p></p><p>I don't think their is one cause. I do think too many adult kids see their peers moving ahead and need to blame someone or something outside of themselves for not keeping up.</p><p></p><p>They tend to be rigid and stubborn too and refuse to try new things. Those who have mental health problems refuse medications and therapy, which right now is the best we have. Others insist pot helps them and refuse to blame pot for their lack of motivation. The pot issue is so bad with so many adult kids.</p><p></p><p>I don't think we can really pin it down. But one universal issue seems to be that thy refuse to blame themselves when they don't succeed. And if offered good advice or professional help to become more "able" so many would rather just self medicate and sit around on our dime rather than learning to be differently wired yet independent. It is also harder for many of these failure to thrive kids. But if they refuse to try at all, they won't gain more skills, but some don't seem to care.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 690781, member: 1550"] I truly believe it is a combination. Differently wired people can have many traits that impede them as adults such as unstable moods/emotions, the unreal feeling that everyone's life should be equally fulfilling whether or not one works for it, entitlement, the wrongful idea that parents must provide for them their entire lifetimes and the expectation that society thinks wrong (such as frowning upon poor hygiene and body odor)...and that because society should accept them dirty, they will not change. Some feel inept and it comes out as anger. Some mentally different adults stay angry all the time and blame the terrible world for their own attitudes that hamper them. I don't think their is one cause. I do think too many adult kids see their peers moving ahead and need to blame someone or something outside of themselves for not keeping up. They tend to be rigid and stubborn too and refuse to try new things. Those who have mental health problems refuse medications and therapy, which right now is the best we have. Others insist pot helps them and refuse to blame pot for their lack of motivation. The pot issue is so bad with so many adult kids. I don't think we can really pin it down. But one universal issue seems to be that thy refuse to blame themselves when they don't succeed. And if offered good advice or professional help to become more "able" so many would rather just self medicate and sit around on our dime rather than learning to be differently wired yet independent. It is also harder for many of these failure to thrive kids. But if they refuse to try at all, they won't gain more skills, but some don't seem to care. [/QUOTE]
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