Hi, I'm a new poster to these forums, and though I'm not a parent, I see many of you are, so maybe you have advice for me: I'm in my mid 40's, married, homeowner, job/career, friends, good life. My 39-year-old sibling has lived at home with my father for 15+ years; currently unemployed (did 4 yrs military after high school, has had 2 different low-wage jobs, got a community college degree then lost interest in doing anything with it), doesn't volunteer or job hunt, spends most of their time on the internet/reading/watching TV, or keeping notes on the comings & goings of neighbors they don't like. When I suggested applying for a job at a local company I know they like, s/he claimed s/he wasn't going to pay into the "criminal government's" social security or taxes; earlier this year, I had a job event in a major city nearby, and while my parents attended, s/he refused to on the grounds the city was a "sanctuary city" and s/he wouldn't give it any money (despite the only money said city would get would be through a parking meter). My father indicated that he's talked to my sibling and "gotten nowhere", but yet depends on them to drive him to all his medical appointments; my mother makes excuses for how "sensitive" s/he is, but when I suggest possible employment options, shoots every one down. (Apparently my sibling's failure to launch has also been the subject of arguments between mother and stepdad. Stepdad is seriously physically ailing by the way, and mom is his primary caregiver.) My sibling was suspected ADD and/or dyslexic as a teenager, but I have no idea if anything was formally diagnosed; from all outside indications, they're perfectly capable of holding down a job and functioning. All this I could hush up & walk away from, they're all grown-ups; however my dad's will leaves his assets in a trust in which we're both named, and when he passes, I will have to deal with a sibling with no job, no social skills, who thinks the government's out to get them, who might fight me about selling our parent's house (which neither of us siblings could afford the property taxes on). I want to see my sibling lead a life they care about, but my encouragement has fallen on deaf ears; my spouse & I are determined they aren't moving in with us no matter what, and... now what? Do I just wait for the hammer to fall? Do I arrange a family intervention & kinda blow things up? Is there a resource I can direct my parents to? I just feel like I'm watching a really slow-motion car crash that's only going to get worse. Thanks for reading.