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<blockquote data-quote="lovemysons" data-source="post: 760011" data-attributes="member: 3305"><p>Dear helpless...</p><p>Your story reminds me of my own, especially as it relates to my oldest son. </p><p>My oldest got involved with drugs around the age of 14 and by the time he was 18 he was serving time in prison for stealing 10k in computers from my husband’s employer to fund his Meth addiction. </p><p></p><p>To say my husband was angry and demanded consequences for our son is an understatement. I on the other hand I insisted on trying to save our son at every turn. I was the one driving down the road screaming out my sons name to try and find him. I also was the one who drove him to the police station to give a statement. I remember holding my sons face in my hands as we both stood crying in the police station... I told him I would write, visit and put money on his books. In effect I would be “in prison with him”. </p><p>My husband on the other hand wanted nothing to do with our son for at least a year of son’s prison time. This hurt me to my core. The whole situation did. Here was our beautiful shining star going up in flames and his father wanted nothing to do with him. It tore me apart... literally.</p><p></p><p>I did my time that year with my son in so many ways. I agonized and often had screaming crying fits and panic attacks... eventually this cost me my sanity. I ended up having a psychotic breakdown while my oldest was in prison. I had to be hospitalized for a week to ”bring me back”.</p><p></p><p>Today this son is 3 years sober. He paid his restitution and today he really is that shining star...he always had SO much potential. And...even more ironic my dear husband and this son work together in business now...and are a very successful team! </p><p></p><p>I wish I had not tried so hard to SAVE my sons...it was never up to me. This was between my sons and G-d. I am not their savior...I am their mother and my job was/is to teach them to fly on their own. </p><p></p><p>Helpless...you, like me, are helpless to save your son. This is not a battle between you and your husband. This is a battle between your son and G-d in my humble opinion. Your son CAN pay his dues, learn from his mistakes and soar one day. But please do not lose yourself or your marriage in the process. </p><p></p><p>Thinking and praying for you,</p><p>LMS</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="lovemysons, post: 760011, member: 3305"] Dear helpless... Your story reminds me of my own, especially as it relates to my oldest son. My oldest got involved with drugs around the age of 14 and by the time he was 18 he was serving time in prison for stealing 10k in computers from my husband’s employer to fund his Meth addiction. To say my husband was angry and demanded consequences for our son is an understatement. I on the other hand I insisted on trying to save our son at every turn. I was the one driving down the road screaming out my sons name to try and find him. I also was the one who drove him to the police station to give a statement. I remember holding my sons face in my hands as we both stood crying in the police station... I told him I would write, visit and put money on his books. In effect I would be “in prison with him”. My husband on the other hand wanted nothing to do with our son for at least a year of son’s prison time. This hurt me to my core. The whole situation did. Here was our beautiful shining star going up in flames and his father wanted nothing to do with him. It tore me apart... literally. I did my time that year with my son in so many ways. I agonized and often had screaming crying fits and panic attacks... eventually this cost me my sanity. I ended up having a psychotic breakdown while my oldest was in prison. I had to be hospitalized for a week to ”bring me back”. Today this son is 3 years sober. He paid his restitution and today he really is that shining star...he always had SO much potential. And...even more ironic my dear husband and this son work together in business now...and are a very successful team! I wish I had not tried so hard to SAVE my sons...it was never up to me. This was between my sons and G-d. I am not their savior...I am their mother and my job was/is to teach them to fly on their own. Helpless...you, like me, are helpless to save your son. This is not a battle between you and your husband. This is a battle between your son and G-d in my humble opinion. Your son CAN pay his dues, learn from his mistakes and soar one day. But please do not lose yourself or your marriage in the process. Thinking and praying for you, LMS [/QUOTE]
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