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<blockquote data-quote="LauraH" data-source="post: 759668" data-attributes="member: 22877"><p>My son called me around 8 Central Time (he's in Chicago) and said that Jason (his partner) had talked to a counselor about the delusions and using the roommate's "contraband" phone (his Apple watch). He said he admitted to using the phone...although he said he had only called Jason once on the Apple watch, which isn't true, he has made several phone calls both to Jason and his sponsor)</p><p></p><p>I started writing this last post a few hours ago and "stuff" really has hit the fan in the meantime. My son somehow got $6,000 deposited to his debit card...says it was back pay from unemployment but I'm skeptical...and left rehab. He is completely out of touch with reality at this point and thinks all the other patients and most of the staff have been conspiring against him. Said a couple of police officers were at the facility and he knew they were coming to arrest him for something that they've been watching him for over the last four years, although he couldn't say what exactly that was.</p><p></p><p>He took a cab back into the city (Chicago) and is staying at a hotel until the money runs out or some such nonsense, and still trying to get into sober living when a bed opens up. I told him bluntly that until I saw results all his "plans" to get back into recovery was nothing but empty promises. While we were talking my husband came home from work and I was weary of hearing his paranoid delusional talk so I told him I had to go. He then sayid "Well that proves how much you love and care about me, thanks a lot." and hung up on me.</p><p></p><p>Not long after, he called again and against my better judgment I answered. He somehow found out that I have been in contact with the boyfriend and the sponsor (I have an idea who told him, a friend of his in California, but that's neither here nor there). He sees it as the ultimate betrayal that I have been in cahoots with them and that I'm taking the boyfriend's side over his...because he has yet to acknowledge the damage he has done to the relationship and to his boyfriend's state of mind currently and can't understand how the boyfriend would block his calls and not want to talk to him right now. When he was done talking I simply said Well I guess we have nothing more to say to each other and wished him a happy and successful life. He hung up on me mid sentence. </p><p></p><p>I am done. I may hear from him in a few days or weeks, or possibly never. He pulled this a couple of years ago and "cut me out of his life" by blocking me on Facebook. I heard from him a couple of days later when he wanted me to do something for him. I told him you don't get to cut someone out of your life and then ask them for a favor. But here's a huge difference. That time I was brokenhearted and devastated. Tonight I'm a little shaken but not devastated. I am taking it in stride no matter how this plays out. I am worried that I may not have any way of knowing if something terrible happens to him but other than that I don't really care anymore. </p><p></p><p>If he is so hellbent on destroying relationships with the people who truly care about him then so be it. The boyfriend is at the breaking point and ready to walk away and frankly, after this last, so am I. I don't how how much longer the sponsor will be willing to be in the picture either. He has literally poo poohed all the sponsor's recommendations and suggestions and I'm sure he will quickly reach the point of throwing up his hands and saying "what's the use". I hate that my son has made decisions and done things that got his best support system to this point...but anything that happens to me as a result is entirely on his shoulders. Although of course he will blame everyone except himself on whatever failures he may experience going forward. He refuses to accept responsibilty for anything. Oh well...I wish I could say I am past the point of caring but that's not entirely true. I will never stop caring and loving but I'm done putting forth any emotional energy on him. I'm done.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LauraH, post: 759668, member: 22877"] My son called me around 8 Central Time (he's in Chicago) and said that Jason (his partner) had talked to a counselor about the delusions and using the roommate's "contraband" phone (his Apple watch). He said he admitted to using the phone...although he said he had only called Jason once on the Apple watch, which isn't true, he has made several phone calls both to Jason and his sponsor) I started writing this last post a few hours ago and "stuff" really has hit the fan in the meantime. My son somehow got $6,000 deposited to his debit card...says it was back pay from unemployment but I'm skeptical...and left rehab. He is completely out of touch with reality at this point and thinks all the other patients and most of the staff have been conspiring against him. Said a couple of police officers were at the facility and he knew they were coming to arrest him for something that they've been watching him for over the last four years, although he couldn't say what exactly that was. He took a cab back into the city (Chicago) and is staying at a hotel until the money runs out or some such nonsense, and still trying to get into sober living when a bed opens up. I told him bluntly that until I saw results all his "plans" to get back into recovery was nothing but empty promises. While we were talking my husband came home from work and I was weary of hearing his paranoid delusional talk so I told him I had to go. He then sayid "Well that proves how much you love and care about me, thanks a lot." and hung up on me. Not long after, he called again and against my better judgment I answered. He somehow found out that I have been in contact with the boyfriend and the sponsor (I have an idea who told him, a friend of his in California, but that's neither here nor there). He sees it as the ultimate betrayal that I have been in cahoots with them and that I'm taking the boyfriend's side over his...because he has yet to acknowledge the damage he has done to the relationship and to his boyfriend's state of mind currently and can't understand how the boyfriend would block his calls and not want to talk to him right now. When he was done talking I simply said Well I guess we have nothing more to say to each other and wished him a happy and successful life. He hung up on me mid sentence. I am done. I may hear from him in a few days or weeks, or possibly never. He pulled this a couple of years ago and "cut me out of his life" by blocking me on Facebook. I heard from him a couple of days later when he wanted me to do something for him. I told him you don't get to cut someone out of your life and then ask them for a favor. But here's a huge difference. That time I was brokenhearted and devastated. Tonight I'm a little shaken but not devastated. I am taking it in stride no matter how this plays out. I am worried that I may not have any way of knowing if something terrible happens to him but other than that I don't really care anymore. If he is so hellbent on destroying relationships with the people who truly care about him then so be it. The boyfriend is at the breaking point and ready to walk away and frankly, after this last, so am I. I don't how how much longer the sponsor will be willing to be in the picture either. He has literally poo poohed all the sponsor's recommendations and suggestions and I'm sure he will quickly reach the point of throwing up his hands and saying "what's the use". I hate that my son has made decisions and done things that got his best support system to this point...but anything that happens to me as a result is entirely on his shoulders. Although of course he will blame everyone except himself on whatever failures he may experience going forward. He refuses to accept responsibilty for anything. Oh well...I wish I could say I am past the point of caring but that's not entirely true. I will never stop caring and loving but I'm done putting forth any emotional energy on him. I'm done. [/QUOTE]
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