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<blockquote data-quote="Waitingforamiracle" data-source="post: 759986" data-attributes="member: 25449"><p>Hi WDWFB, just checking in with sympathy. Haven't heard from my son since we asked him to leave in August. He doesn't do drugs afaik, he seems OK and appears on social media from time to time but asked us not to speak to him so we don't. He accused us of all sorts. My husband's health isn't good and my nerves were in shreds. He seemed to be hell bent on torturing us for no reason that I could see. </p><p>His Grandad passed on Feb 6. We did email him then but no answer.</p><p>Yes I really, really get it with the feelings of failure. It makes me tearful. It's natural to think that, especially when we see parents and family around us who have 'model' children. But there are many of us out there who did their best, and if loving them and trying to help them was so wrong, perhaps we can forgive ourselves for that and concentrate on our own lives. I have found Zen Buddhist teachings help, even though I still pray to G-D. And I make art. </p><p>My Mum, who was a refugee, a divorcee, a mother of 4 deserted by her husband and survivor of shock treatment for all kinds of breakdowns, used to sing "let him go, let him tarry, let him sink or let him swim, he doesn't care for me so I don't care for him" - an old song. Maybe we still do care, but it helps! : )</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Waitingforamiracle, post: 759986, member: 25449"] Hi WDWFB, just checking in with sympathy. Haven't heard from my son since we asked him to leave in August. He doesn't do drugs afaik, he seems OK and appears on social media from time to time but asked us not to speak to him so we don't. He accused us of all sorts. My husband's health isn't good and my nerves were in shreds. He seemed to be hell bent on torturing us for no reason that I could see. His Grandad passed on Feb 6. We did email him then but no answer. Yes I really, really get it with the feelings of failure. It makes me tearful. It's natural to think that, especially when we see parents and family around us who have 'model' children. But there are many of us out there who did their best, and if loving them and trying to help them was so wrong, perhaps we can forgive ourselves for that and concentrate on our own lives. I have found Zen Buddhist teachings help, even though I still pray to G-D. And I make art. My Mum, who was a refugee, a divorcee, a mother of 4 deserted by her husband and survivor of shock treatment for all kinds of breakdowns, used to sing "let him go, let him tarry, let him sink or let him swim, he doesn't care for me so I don't care for him" - an old song. Maybe we still do care, but it helps! : ) [/QUOTE]
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