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<blockquote data-quote="PennyFromTheBlock" data-source="post: 739451" data-attributes="member: 18271"><p>I've been a part of this group off and on for about 4 years. You guys have helped me more than I could ever say- </p><p></p><p>Things even out between myself and my son - and I walk away from the encouragement and help for two reasons:</p><p></p><p>1. I believe there are others who need it more than me, and why continue or, </p><p>2. I am embarrassed by my own weaknesses sometimes when it comes to him</p><p></p><p>My son has a 3 year old that I ADORE. I try to maintain some semblance of a relationship with my son because of my grandbaby. He isn't with the baby's mom anymore- but I try to always 'keep the peace' and do what I can to ensure the environment my gbaby is in is a happy one.</p><p></p><p>My son continues to do the most- make poor decisions, gets a good job and loses it due to his MOUTH, bounces from a girlfriends house and then to his sisters house (not me, he knows I'm done with THAT). My daughter is an adult and can tell him no- but she's not there yet. She's unhappy and wants him out- but she's just not there yet.</p><p></p><p>If he weren't my son, I'd have zero to do with him. He has a mental issue that he won't get help for. He's 25 and has access to health insurance (through me). I'm so overwhelmed tonight- I've cried and cried and know logically that I can't 'fix' this. </p><p></p><p>I've asked before (and logically I know the answer) but where the hell did I screw up? I enabled him, that I do know. But somehow I feel like he is who he is because of me. I saw a meme on social media that basically says if you want your kid to be a kind and good human, YOU have to be a kind and good human. I felt like I was. I never did drugs, never stole, don't lie, work hard, etc etc.</p><p></p><p>I just can't shake it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="PennyFromTheBlock, post: 739451, member: 18271"] I've been a part of this group off and on for about 4 years. You guys have helped me more than I could ever say- Things even out between myself and my son - and I walk away from the encouragement and help for two reasons: 1. I believe there are others who need it more than me, and why continue or, 2. I am embarrassed by my own weaknesses sometimes when it comes to him My son has a 3 year old that I ADORE. I try to maintain some semblance of a relationship with my son because of my grandbaby. He isn't with the baby's mom anymore- but I try to always 'keep the peace' and do what I can to ensure the environment my gbaby is in is a happy one. My son continues to do the most- make poor decisions, gets a good job and loses it due to his MOUTH, bounces from a girlfriends house and then to his sisters house (not me, he knows I'm done with THAT). My daughter is an adult and can tell him no- but she's not there yet. She's unhappy and wants him out- but she's just not there yet. If he weren't my son, I'd have zero to do with him. He has a mental issue that he won't get help for. He's 25 and has access to health insurance (through me). I'm so overwhelmed tonight- I've cried and cried and know logically that I can't 'fix' this. I've asked before (and logically I know the answer) but where the hell did I screw up? I enabled him, that I do know. But somehow I feel like he is who he is because of me. I saw a meme on social media that basically says if you want your kid to be a kind and good human, YOU have to be a kind and good human. I felt like I was. I never did drugs, never stole, don't lie, work hard, etc etc. I just can't shake it. [/QUOTE]
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