Something's gotta give!
I think husband and I are both ready to go back to work-right now the week ahead seems more like a punishment than a relief.-
difficult child is so 24/7 right now. He constantly needs to be around us and can't or won't do anything independently.The few times we have gone out-like to boot camp-we are bombarded with phone calls. husband are trying to tag team but it just isn't enough. difficult child doesn't stop talking, arguing, pleading, begging. He is rude and swearing like a sailor one moment and the next moment talking in a baby voice and acting like a 3 year old. He cries easily. He is also waking up super early-before 4:00 (3 of the last 4 days).
He doesn't stop even when he see's we're near the edge. The only good news is even though he is threatening violence he is not following through (other than the "accidental" bumping into me). It doesn't help that it's the end of the month and we don't have a lot of $ to do take him places. Not even sure how much that helps as it is just a change of scenery and he still acts the same way. My patience is almost non existent right now (which really isn't a good thing)! Oh how I miss having respite!!
The other thing we are dealing with is his inappropriate "touching". He hugs husband or me and will touch husband in his private area and has touched me on my breasts on several occasions. He will also walk by us and slap us lightly on our butts. We've told him this is sexual harassment. The last time he touched me inappropriately I really lost it verbally and it's been three days since he has done it.
Today I was getting the shower set up for him (long story but he won't get in unless one of us gets the water going for him) and he started dancing and shaking his naked body. Even though we tell him this is inappropriate it is like he truly doesn't get it. He thinks he is being funny and cute. When he is like this he is acting like he is a 5 year old.
Then he has sweet moments-like as I'm sitting here typing this I mentioned I was cold and he went and got a blanket and covered me up. My head is spinning from all of his moods.
easy child/difficult child is not helping matters with difficult child. She is completely crabby and grouchy with everyone right now. Mostly she isolates herself and when we ask her to do something the answer is always a rude no. I actually think she has us more stressed out than difficult child.
Tonight I made a dinner we all liked and still there was arguing. At one point I was in the living room and husband was still at the table. The two difficult children were arguing so much I put my hands over my ears to help block it out (I know not a great coping strategy) and I looked over and poor husband had his head down and his hands over his face.
Thank goodness we still have our warped sense of humor. husband told me to call up my friend whose house we are having dinner at tomorrow and ask if we could come over around noon to help. At least we will get out tomorrow night with-o the kids!
If you've made it this far thanks for listening to me vent!
I think husband and I are both ready to go back to work-right now the week ahead seems more like a punishment than a relief.-
difficult child is so 24/7 right now. He constantly needs to be around us and can't or won't do anything independently.The few times we have gone out-like to boot camp-we are bombarded with phone calls. husband are trying to tag team but it just isn't enough. difficult child doesn't stop talking, arguing, pleading, begging. He is rude and swearing like a sailor one moment and the next moment talking in a baby voice and acting like a 3 year old. He cries easily. He is also waking up super early-before 4:00 (3 of the last 4 days).
He doesn't stop even when he see's we're near the edge. The only good news is even though he is threatening violence he is not following through (other than the "accidental" bumping into me). It doesn't help that it's the end of the month and we don't have a lot of $ to do take him places. Not even sure how much that helps as it is just a change of scenery and he still acts the same way. My patience is almost non existent right now (which really isn't a good thing)! Oh how I miss having respite!!
The other thing we are dealing with is his inappropriate "touching". He hugs husband or me and will touch husband in his private area and has touched me on my breasts on several occasions. He will also walk by us and slap us lightly on our butts. We've told him this is sexual harassment. The last time he touched me inappropriately I really lost it verbally and it's been three days since he has done it.
Today I was getting the shower set up for him (long story but he won't get in unless one of us gets the water going for him) and he started dancing and shaking his naked body. Even though we tell him this is inappropriate it is like he truly doesn't get it. He thinks he is being funny and cute. When he is like this he is acting like he is a 5 year old.
Then he has sweet moments-like as I'm sitting here typing this I mentioned I was cold and he went and got a blanket and covered me up. My head is spinning from all of his moods.
easy child/difficult child is not helping matters with difficult child. She is completely crabby and grouchy with everyone right now. Mostly she isolates herself and when we ask her to do something the answer is always a rude no. I actually think she has us more stressed out than difficult child.
Tonight I made a dinner we all liked and still there was arguing. At one point I was in the living room and husband was still at the table. The two difficult children were arguing so much I put my hands over my ears to help block it out (I know not a great coping strategy) and I looked over and poor husband had his head down and his hands over his face.
Thank goodness we still have our warped sense of humor. husband told me to call up my friend whose house we are having dinner at tomorrow and ask if we could come over around noon to help. At least we will get out tomorrow night with-o the kids!
If you've made it this far thanks for listening to me vent!
difficult child 2 hasn't been violent in over two years now...but I still keep a deadbolt on my bedroom door. I don't need it to keep him away from us when he's raging anymore...but it sure does come in handy when I need a minute to just breathe. It's a solid wood core door and even my interior bedroom walls are insulted to dampen distracting noises. (My office is also attached to my bedroom...so it pays to have peace & quiet when I'm working.)
