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Kicked my 23 yr. old son out - was I wrong?
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<blockquote data-quote="SeaGenieTx" data-source="post: 648168" data-attributes="member: 18773"><p>Thank you to everyone who responded - wow, I am so glad I found this forum and have a place to come get support and talk about this. While others talk about their kids graduating college and going on to great things and how they are so proud.... Im secretly dying inside.</p><p></p><p>I think I've been pretty good cutting him off. Since he has no car, I removed him off my car insurance, and severed ties to his bank account (so I won't transfer money to him anymore). His cell phone has been disconnected (he can still make calls and get ahold of me by Facebook) and his bank account and credit cards are overdrawn. Not my problem.</p><p></p><p>He can only mooch off other people for so long and it's going to get old. He has NO money so I have no idea how he is eating or what - I guess this girl he is with is helping him or he's just stupid enough to starve or eat handouts. I'm tired of worrying.</p><p></p><p>I love the article on detachment and the term "gaslighting". Boy did that open my eyes. My son has been a master at that - trying to make me feel crazy by playing mind games. The hardest thing for me is I have no family support at all. I need to join a church or like suggested, attend some Al-Anon meetings. I forgot to mention that one of my brothers who passed two years ago was an alcoholic. He lost his job and ended up homeless because of his addiction and delusions of thinking others would save him and enable him. He was found dead behind a dumpster from alcoholic poisoning (drank himself to death).</p><p></p><p>My son has addiction tendencies and whatever he has been doing lately it's taking him down a dark path. I can only hope he doesn't end up dead or in jail again. If he goes to jail I have already told him not to call me. He will have to serve time - I bailed him out three times, never again. I'm done. I am glad he is out of the house as its been a very peaceful weekend. </p><p></p><p>I don't have access to his instagram but I can see he is still alive as he is posting pictures (I watch his posts numbers go up). That is the only way I can tell he is alive and not in jail. If he is posting pics he has access to someones wifi and he is ok. I can watch his Facebook too but he never posts much on it.</p><p></p><p>I can't thank all of you enough for your kind and helpful replies. Its a huge relief having this forum to come to and vent and seek support. THANK YOU!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SeaGenieTx, post: 648168, member: 18773"] Thank you to everyone who responded - wow, I am so glad I found this forum and have a place to come get support and talk about this. While others talk about their kids graduating college and going on to great things and how they are so proud.... Im secretly dying inside. I think I've been pretty good cutting him off. Since he has no car, I removed him off my car insurance, and severed ties to his bank account (so I won't transfer money to him anymore). His cell phone has been disconnected (he can still make calls and get ahold of me by Facebook) and his bank account and credit cards are overdrawn. Not my problem. He can only mooch off other people for so long and it's going to get old. He has NO money so I have no idea how he is eating or what - I guess this girl he is with is helping him or he's just stupid enough to starve or eat handouts. I'm tired of worrying. I love the article on detachment and the term "gaslighting". Boy did that open my eyes. My son has been a master at that - trying to make me feel crazy by playing mind games. The hardest thing for me is I have no family support at all. I need to join a church or like suggested, attend some Al-Anon meetings. I forgot to mention that one of my brothers who passed two years ago was an alcoholic. He lost his job and ended up homeless because of his addiction and delusions of thinking others would save him and enable him. He was found dead behind a dumpster from alcoholic poisoning (drank himself to death). My son has addiction tendencies and whatever he has been doing lately it's taking him down a dark path. I can only hope he doesn't end up dead or in jail again. If he goes to jail I have already told him not to call me. He will have to serve time - I bailed him out three times, never again. I'm done. I am glad he is out of the house as its been a very peaceful weekend. I don't have access to his instagram but I can see he is still alive as he is posting pictures (I watch his posts numbers go up). That is the only way I can tell he is alive and not in jail. If he is posting pics he has access to someones wifi and he is ok. I can watch his Facebook too but he never posts much on it. I can't thank all of you enough for your kind and helpful replies. Its a huge relief having this forum to come to and vent and seek support. THANK YOU! [/QUOTE]
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