That post about "will you listen?" inspired me. We have all received clueless advice? What was the worst advice you ever received for your difficult child? This isn't the only bad advice I got, but it's one of the silliest bits. My son, when he was a toddler, would NOT go to time out. He'd bite us, kick, scream and, if he tried to leave him there (which was another of his advice--just walk away ) my two year old would pick up the big chair and throw it across the room with rage-like strength. When we asked the therapist about it he said, "He knows you are a soft touch. You need to get tough with him. Next time he does that, kneel to his level, hold both his hands and make him look you in the eyes, then say 'You *will* take your time out." Our voices were supposed to be very calm. Then we were to put the thrown chair back and he would then sit on it and take the timeout since we had "taken control" and had been calm. Guess how THAT turned out???? Broken chair anyone? (We found a new therapist).