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<blockquote data-quote="Nandina" data-source="post: 759841" data-attributes="member: 23742"><p>Hi Water,</p><p></p><p>What a lovely and heartfelt post. What is your relationship like with your parents today? Have they forgiven you? I think you need to forgive yourself.</p><p></p><p>There is perhaps no way you can make up for all the 20 years of “chaos” but it sounds like you are on the right track just wanting to make amends, show your parents how much you love them and how sorry you are. That is great!</p><p></p><p>Let’s face it—though nobody would condone some of your past actions, you were a lot younger then and immature; your behavior was influenced by drugs compounded with some behavioral disorders, and probably the wrong crowd, among possible other things.</p><p></p><p>Many young people go through similar situations to varying degrees just by nature of being immature and impressionable. And often when maturity kicks in, you see the change of heart that you have so eloquently displayed here. It happened with my two older children when they were about your same age, and didn’t have the conduct problems of my third child, though they still had issues growing up for which they have both apologized and are on good paths today. And at 20 years old, the youngest and most difficult is starting to see the light as well.</p><p></p><p>You got through it and that is commendable. You took extra steps to get sober, obtain a pardon, and find a new social circle. That is wonderful! That‘s a parent’s dream come true! I imagine your parents must be proud of you. I hope they are. Just continue to show them by your actions as well as your words that you love and care for them. If you need medication, stay compliant with it to keep setbacks to a minimum. </p><p></p><p>Just keep doing what you’re doing! Please don’t let any previous bad behavior define you. And if you are a praying person, pray. Ask for guidance and wisdom. It sounds to me like you’ve already got a good supply started.</p><p></p><p>Please stay in touch with us—I’d love to hear more from you. Your post made my day!</p><p></p><p>Love, Nandina</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nandina, post: 759841, member: 23742"] Hi Water, What a lovely and heartfelt post. What is your relationship like with your parents today? Have they forgiven you? I think you need to forgive yourself. There is perhaps no way you can make up for all the 20 years of “chaos” but it sounds like you are on the right track just wanting to make amends, show your parents how much you love them and how sorry you are. That is great! Let’s face it—though nobody would condone some of your past actions, you were a lot younger then and immature; your behavior was influenced by drugs compounded with some behavioral disorders, and probably the wrong crowd, among possible other things. Many young people go through similar situations to varying degrees just by nature of being immature and impressionable. And often when maturity kicks in, you see the change of heart that you have so eloquently displayed here. It happened with my two older children when they were about your same age, and didn’t have the conduct problems of my third child, though they still had issues growing up for which they have both apologized and are on good paths today. And at 20 years old, the youngest and most difficult is starting to see the light as well. You got through it and that is commendable. You took extra steps to get sober, obtain a pardon, and find a new social circle. That is wonderful! That‘s a parent’s dream come true! I imagine your parents must be proud of you. I hope they are. Just continue to show them by your actions as well as your words that you love and care for them. If you need medication, stay compliant with it to keep setbacks to a minimum. Just keep doing what you’re doing! Please don’t let any previous bad behavior define you. And if you are a praying person, pray. Ask for guidance and wisdom. It sounds to me like you’ve already got a good supply started. Please stay in touch with us—I’d love to hear more from you. Your post made my day! Love, Nandina [/QUOTE]
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