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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 722010" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>the rabbi i speak with for spiritual direction said something like this with respect to dying parents: it never goes entirely well.</p><p></p><p>she said something that surprised me: that just as there is a communicative hormonal interchange between mother and infant during birth, if the child is nearby, there is a similar process as a parent dies. kind of like a conversation.</p><p></p><p>you are speaking to your father in your way and he to you. unfortunately cq is blocking, distorting as it is her wont to do.</p><p></p><p>one thing i did not do for myself as my mother died, is preotect myself. factor in the costs to me. nor did my mother help me in this. her death replayed the same dynamics that had injured me in life. but i had no defense as i chose not too. or perhaps. given the circumctances, i had no defenses.</p><p></p><p>you do. </p><p></p><p>by posting here, in conversations with friends, loved ones, you speak your part, and for your father. you try out possible interventions and how they will impact you, as well as him. </p><p></p><p>dad may be increasingly incapacitated but in his life, like all of us, he made willful and conscious decisions. for which he not you is responsible. </p><p></p><p>my sister and i could not get on the same page. too much mistrust. your family seems more together. i would if i could try to support each other in an intervention.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 722010, member: 18958"] the rabbi i speak with for spiritual direction said something like this with respect to dying parents: it never goes entirely well. she said something that surprised me: that just as there is a communicative hormonal interchange between mother and infant during birth, if the child is nearby, there is a similar process as a parent dies. kind of like a conversation. you are speaking to your father in your way and he to you. unfortunately cq is blocking, distorting as it is her wont to do. one thing i did not do for myself as my mother died, is preotect myself. factor in the costs to me. nor did my mother help me in this. her death replayed the same dynamics that had injured me in life. but i had no defense as i chose not too. or perhaps. given the circumctances, i had no defenses. you do. by posting here, in conversations with friends, loved ones, you speak your part, and for your father. you try out possible interventions and how they will impact you, as well as him. dad may be increasingly incapacitated but in his life, like all of us, he made willful and conscious decisions. for which he not you is responsible. my sister and i could not get on the same page. too much mistrust. your family seems more together. i would if i could try to support each other in an intervention. [/QUOTE]
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