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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 760298" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>Hi Copa,</p><p>I am a little better. Thank you. Still no word from Tornado, however I do not expect to hear from her.</p><p></p><p>I feel all of these things and a whole lot more. But it is true that it would be a relief to know that my grandson is with family. The possibility to see him, for his siblings to be able to visit with him and connect. In Hawaiian culture connection is paramount. That’s why all of this has been so devastating.</p><p></p><p>It is a fact that Tornado does not consider others feelings. This is what Hoku fears with the reunification process. Tornado could legally relinquish her rights, but now that CWS has custody of the baby, the goal will be to reunify. It will take about a year. But, if Tornado fails to engage, then her rights will be terminated. </p><p></p><p>This is true. I have read articles about the goal to keep children with their parents, even if there is drug use. I think that’s why they stopped calling people foster parents, now they are “resource caregivers”.</p><p></p><p>I would love it too, truthfully. There is one part of me (and it is horrible to admit) that is fearful. We don’t know what and how much drug use was happening while Tornado was pregnant. How is this baby affected, what does that mean years down the road for his mental health? I told Hoku that she has to think of these things for it will definitely affect her family. </p><p>When my three grands and I were going through the CWS process in the beginning, they sent out letters to family members aunties, uncles, cousins, second cousins, even my mother received a letter, concerning their situation and seeking information about possible involvement. I texted my sister in law and niece and let them know the situation. My niece has a friend who is looking to adopt. She and her husband have gone through all of the training. We spoke the other day and she is very interested in caring</p><p>for my grandson. This way, we would at least be able to see him as she is open to our involvement. </p><p>Sigh.</p><p>It would be ideal for baby to be raised by Hoku. There will be challenges. She and her husband have a lot of discussion ahead. He is agreeable. I think she should also have a chat with her little one who is just four and very intelligent. She has wished for a sister or brother. </p><p>Time and reading and writing here is helping to soothe the ache.</p><p>The court case is Friday, I think it legalizes removal of baby and CWS custody.</p><p>I have to stop thinking of how traumatized this baby must be, but I can’t help it. I am grateful that there is a family caring for him, but not knowing and not seeing him is hard. </p><p>I will keep praying for help.</p><p>Love to you </p><p>Leaf</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 760298, member: 19522"] Hi Copa, I am a little better. Thank you. Still no word from Tornado, however I do not expect to hear from her. I feel all of these things and a whole lot more. But it is true that it would be a relief to know that my grandson is with family. The possibility to see him, for his siblings to be able to visit with him and connect. In Hawaiian culture connection is paramount. That’s why all of this has been so devastating. It is a fact that Tornado does not consider others feelings. This is what Hoku fears with the reunification process. Tornado could legally relinquish her rights, but now that CWS has custody of the baby, the goal will be to reunify. It will take about a year. But, if Tornado fails to engage, then her rights will be terminated. This is true. I have read articles about the goal to keep children with their parents, even if there is drug use. I think that’s why they stopped calling people foster parents, now they are “resource caregivers”. I would love it too, truthfully. There is one part of me (and it is horrible to admit) that is fearful. We don’t know what and how much drug use was happening while Tornado was pregnant. How is this baby affected, what does that mean years down the road for his mental health? I told Hoku that she has to think of these things for it will definitely affect her family. When my three grands and I were going through the CWS process in the beginning, they sent out letters to family members aunties, uncles, cousins, second cousins, even my mother received a letter, concerning their situation and seeking information about possible involvement. I texted my sister in law and niece and let them know the situation. My niece has a friend who is looking to adopt. She and her husband have gone through all of the training. We spoke the other day and she is very interested in caring for my grandson. This way, we would at least be able to see him as she is open to our involvement. Sigh. It would be ideal for baby to be raised by Hoku. There will be challenges. She and her husband have a lot of discussion ahead. He is agreeable. I think she should also have a chat with her little one who is just four and very intelligent. She has wished for a sister or brother. Time and reading and writing here is helping to soothe the ache. The court case is Friday, I think it legalizes removal of baby and CWS custody. I have to stop thinking of how traumatized this baby must be, but I can’t help it. I am grateful that there is a family caring for him, but not knowing and not seeing him is hard. I will keep praying for help. Love to you Leaf [/QUOTE]
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