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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 726062" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Your daughter has unsupervised visits with a very disturbed person. Someone who abused you in very serious ways. It is WAY too early to label her a psychopath. You are FAR from that. You are NOT too early to think she has been SERIOUSLY abused by her father. She may have been sexually abused by him or she may have been forced to watch as he cut up animals and threatened her with knives. Where else would she suddenly get the idea to tell you not to cut her if you have never done that or even brought it up.</p><p></p><p>My first thought was to seriously limit what she watches on television. I had a son who was preoccupied with weapons. He liked the little action figures of Batman and other things but only because they came with toy weapons. Those were mostly what he played with. We had to limit his tv to only videos. At times we even had to make sure there were no Disney videos because those can have serious violence in them, yes, Disney cartoons. Think about the wolves attacking in Beauty and the Beast or the Hyenas in Lion King screaming "we'll Kill You!". My son loved scenes like those, and would watch only those scenes if we let him. We often had times we had to put those videos away completely for all of our kids. You may have to do this for her.</p><p></p><p>I think she needs a complete evaluation for abuse sooner rather than later. You do NOT NOT NOT want to ask her about it yourself. Call the police or Children's Protective Services (CPS or DHS depending on where you live) and ask them to set up an interview with someone trained to interview her. You may want to wait until after her next visitation with Dad, or you may not. If you cry abuse too often, they will stop believing you. Make sure you document all violent behavior and any time she says anything like "don't cut me". Wait until she is out of sight, of course. You don't want her to know about any of this. </p><p></p><p>She may grow up and be a psychopath. It is WAY to early to know that. There are very good reasons that children are not diagnosed with this at early ages. She may have those tendencies even now. I won't say she doesn't. I will say that it is very difficult to identify this in a child because much of a child's behavior, in the normal range, would be considered psychopathic if an adult did it. This is part of normal development. I am NOT NOT NOT saying your daughter is developing normally. I don't know if she is. I do think something is wrong. I think something is seriously wrong.</p><p></p><p>Unless and until you can rule out abuse, and you cannot if she has unsupervised visits with a very dangerous man, you cannot even begin to rule in psychopathy or sociopathy. And she is so young that I don't think a psychologist or psychiatrist is even going to consider it. They will work with what they can, and at a later age they will maybe consider it. That is just what I think they will do.</p><p></p><p>You have to keep the pets out of the house. You also have to keep the other children safe by always keeping her in your eyesight. That is harder than it sounds. You also have to make sure there are never ever any knives or scissors or needles or razors or anything sharp that are not locked up. She will probably start hiding them and playing with them sooner rather than later. You really don't want that.</p><p></p><p>I am so sorry that you have to deal with this. It is a dangerous situation no matter how it started or what the underlying reason is. If it is abuse, MAYBE you can help her stop it. MAYBE. MAYBE.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 726062, member: 1233"] Your daughter has unsupervised visits with a very disturbed person. Someone who abused you in very serious ways. It is WAY too early to label her a psychopath. You are FAR from that. You are NOT too early to think she has been SERIOUSLY abused by her father. She may have been sexually abused by him or she may have been forced to watch as he cut up animals and threatened her with knives. Where else would she suddenly get the idea to tell you not to cut her if you have never done that or even brought it up. My first thought was to seriously limit what she watches on television. I had a son who was preoccupied with weapons. He liked the little action figures of Batman and other things but only because they came with toy weapons. Those were mostly what he played with. We had to limit his tv to only videos. At times we even had to make sure there were no Disney videos because those can have serious violence in them, yes, Disney cartoons. Think about the wolves attacking in Beauty and the Beast or the Hyenas in Lion King screaming "we'll Kill You!". My son loved scenes like those, and would watch only those scenes if we let him. We often had times we had to put those videos away completely for all of our kids. You may have to do this for her. I think she needs a complete evaluation for abuse sooner rather than later. You do NOT NOT NOT want to ask her about it yourself. Call the police or Children's Protective Services (CPS or DHS depending on where you live) and ask them to set up an interview with someone trained to interview her. You may want to wait until after her next visitation with Dad, or you may not. If you cry abuse too often, they will stop believing you. Make sure you document all violent behavior and any time she says anything like "don't cut me". Wait until she is out of sight, of course. You don't want her to know about any of this. She may grow up and be a psychopath. It is WAY to early to know that. There are very good reasons that children are not diagnosed with this at early ages. She may have those tendencies even now. I won't say she doesn't. I will say that it is very difficult to identify this in a child because much of a child's behavior, in the normal range, would be considered psychopathic if an adult did it. This is part of normal development. I am NOT NOT NOT saying your daughter is developing normally. I don't know if she is. I do think something is wrong. I think something is seriously wrong. Unless and until you can rule out abuse, and you cannot if she has unsupervised visits with a very dangerous man, you cannot even begin to rule in psychopathy or sociopathy. And she is so young that I don't think a psychologist or psychiatrist is even going to consider it. They will work with what they can, and at a later age they will maybe consider it. That is just what I think they will do. You have to keep the pets out of the house. You also have to keep the other children safe by always keeping her in your eyesight. That is harder than it sounds. You also have to make sure there are never ever any knives or scissors or needles or razors or anything sharp that are not locked up. She will probably start hiding them and playing with them sooner rather than later. You really don't want that. I am so sorry that you have to deal with this. It is a dangerous situation no matter how it started or what the underlying reason is. If it is abuse, MAYBE you can help her stop it. MAYBE. MAYBE. [/QUOTE]
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