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My daughter Is refusing help/relapses almost immediately
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember1" data-source="post: 760453" data-attributes="member: 23706"><p>I would like to add that although I am thrilled for RN, not all addicts respond to the same things, and some sadly never get clean. It is up to them.</p><p></p><p>Your daughter is still quite young. That is always good. The longer they do this in my opinion the harder it is for them. So hopefully she decides that this is not the life she wants.</p><p></p><p>Rehab only works if the addict wants to change, is ready to stop. We have no way to force it. RN was blessed with a son who cared about his family, spending time with them, and their approval (RN please correct me if I am wrong). If it's true, as I believe, this helped motivate her son. It is wonderful for the family. Her son sounds awesome!</p><p></p><p>My daughter is not attached to our family and had/has no desire to please us. She blames her being adopted on her crappy life, although she had tons of love and support, but adopted kids tend to get into troubled circumstances more often. Why? Not 100 percent sure. Maybe due to the loss of the first mom. My daughter has ALWAYS wanted to know her and can't find her as she is from another country. The agency can't find her either. It eats her up. Our other kids are not adopted....so she says she feels like an outsider and not a part of our family although she admits we do love her....(sigh). Adoption is hard.</p><p></p><p>Also a lot of addiction is in the DNA. Most adopted kids these days are products of two very troubled and addicted parents and mental illness and a tendency toward mental illness AND addiction are both inherited. But....</p><p></p><p>I have been in Nar Anon for several years and many who come to meetings have addicted children. I've seen 50 come and go at least and ten are solid members who stay. Except for me and one other mom, the kids are all biological so adoption alone is not the main issue maybe. But most of the kids come from families where addiction is a part of it. It seems to me that it's in the DNA. Am I right? I don't know. I think so ...</p><p></p><p>Fighting addiction is hard. I send prayers to all our kids who are addicted. Most also seem to have mental illnesses too. May they all hit bottom and find their ways. They all have a chance to turn things around. Wish there were magic words.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember1, post: 760453, member: 23706"] I would like to add that although I am thrilled for RN, not all addicts respond to the same things, and some sadly never get clean. It is up to them. Your daughter is still quite young. That is always good. The longer they do this in my opinion the harder it is for them. So hopefully she decides that this is not the life she wants. Rehab only works if the addict wants to change, is ready to stop. We have no way to force it. RN was blessed with a son who cared about his family, spending time with them, and their approval (RN please correct me if I am wrong). If it's true, as I believe, this helped motivate her son. It is wonderful for the family. Her son sounds awesome! My daughter is not attached to our family and had/has no desire to please us. She blames her being adopted on her crappy life, although she had tons of love and support, but adopted kids tend to get into troubled circumstances more often. Why? Not 100 percent sure. Maybe due to the loss of the first mom. My daughter has ALWAYS wanted to know her and can't find her as she is from another country. The agency can't find her either. It eats her up. Our other kids are not adopted....so she says she feels like an outsider and not a part of our family although she admits we do love her....(sigh). Adoption is hard. Also a lot of addiction is in the DNA. Most adopted kids these days are products of two very troubled and addicted parents and mental illness and a tendency toward mental illness AND addiction are both inherited. But.... I have been in Nar Anon for several years and many who come to meetings have addicted children. I've seen 50 come and go at least and ten are solid members who stay. Except for me and one other mom, the kids are all biological so adoption alone is not the main issue maybe. But most of the kids come from families where addiction is a part of it. It seems to me that it's in the DNA. Am I right? I don't know. I think so ... Fighting addiction is hard. I send prayers to all our kids who are addicted. Most also seem to have mental illnesses too. May they all hit bottom and find their ways. They all have a chance to turn things around. Wish there were magic words. [/QUOTE]
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