elizabrary
Well-Known Member
Hello all- this is just more of a rant than anything. So a catch up on the soap opera of Kat's (my daughter) life. She is pregnant by her fifth grade boyfriend who she has only been with for about 6 months- a great idea, I know. She off her medications for depression and anxiety because she's pregnant. Her baby daddy lives in another state but he had basically moved in with my daughter. He has a son with another woman who got upset when she found out Kat is pregnant by him, so she turned him in to his parole officer for violating his parole by being out of state. Yes, he's on parole for a drug offense. (I know, this story just keeps getting better.) So he was violated and put on home detention in his home state. My daughter starts losing her sh*t about this but what did she expect? There is also another woman who is pregnant and claims he is the father but he says he's not sure about that, which my daughter knew about. My granddaughter is a competitive gymnast who trains year round, yes, I pay for most of this. During competition season we have to travel nearly every weekend and my daughter has been acting like a raving lunatic during these trips. If every single thing doesn't go her way she absolutely flips out. Literally things like the music playing in the car. If I call her out on it she says I'm the only one who ever has a problem with her. She's so hateful that's literally impossible, but whatever.
Today she called me in extreme distress and anger telling me she had told KK (my granddaughter) that they were going to have to rehome their dog because they aren't home enough and it's not fair to the dog (I have been telling her this for 2 years). Of course KK got upset and didn't want her to rehome the dog so she told her they could keep the dog if she played outside with her at least an hour every day. Three days a week my granddaughter has gymnastics for 3 hours after school. Her grades have slipped recently (I can't imagine why!) so this is a terrible idea. But I just didn't say anything because there really wasn't anything for me to say. So my daughter got mad because I wasn't talking and got off the phone. I was sad because I love my granddog but honestly she needs a better home. So I called my daughter back and told her she should take the dog to the shelter tomorrow because she doesn't want to put that kind of pressure on KK. She flipped out on me screaming, "Can't you just act like my f*cking mother for once? You claim to be so sensitive, well could you be a little sensitive about my feelings just one f*cking time?" And she blamed the whole situation on her former boyfriend who she was with for years because he brought the dog home. She's crazy and irrational, so I just told her I loved her and hung up the phone.
Well, mere moments ago she called me telling me that the other woman had her baby and she saw a picture of it and it looks like her boyfriend's son. And I was like, well you knew this was coming. She was bawling her head off and so I asked her what was going on lately, why she was always so upset. I was calm and rational, so that really set her off and she started screaming, "I don't know why I even called you. You can't ever f*cking be understanding, blah, blah, blah." So I just hung up. How in the world I ended up with such an ungrateful, hateful, narcissistic, irresponsible child I will never know. Good Lord, I'm about turn my phones off again. Send me positive energy. I'm so over her.
Today she called me in extreme distress and anger telling me she had told KK (my granddaughter) that they were going to have to rehome their dog because they aren't home enough and it's not fair to the dog (I have been telling her this for 2 years). Of course KK got upset and didn't want her to rehome the dog so she told her they could keep the dog if she played outside with her at least an hour every day. Three days a week my granddaughter has gymnastics for 3 hours after school. Her grades have slipped recently (I can't imagine why!) so this is a terrible idea. But I just didn't say anything because there really wasn't anything for me to say. So my daughter got mad because I wasn't talking and got off the phone. I was sad because I love my granddog but honestly she needs a better home. So I called my daughter back and told her she should take the dog to the shelter tomorrow because she doesn't want to put that kind of pressure on KK. She flipped out on me screaming, "Can't you just act like my f*cking mother for once? You claim to be so sensitive, well could you be a little sensitive about my feelings just one f*cking time?" And she blamed the whole situation on her former boyfriend who she was with for years because he brought the dog home. She's crazy and irrational, so I just told her I loved her and hung up the phone.
Well, mere moments ago she called me telling me that the other woman had her baby and she saw a picture of it and it looks like her boyfriend's son. And I was like, well you knew this was coming. She was bawling her head off and so I asked her what was going on lately, why she was always so upset. I was calm and rational, so that really set her off and she started screaming, "I don't know why I even called you. You can't ever f*cking be understanding, blah, blah, blah." So I just hung up. How in the world I ended up with such an ungrateful, hateful, narcissistic, irresponsible child I will never know. Good Lord, I'm about turn my phones off again. Send me positive energy. I'm so over her.
and saying that it wasn't ABOUT me, and that who was this person sending her a card anyway, and that she hated me more than she had ever hated anyone in her life. Rationally, I know that her behavior toward me was likely a transference of her FEAR, and that somewhere down deep she was fighting for her very life and that of her unborn baby, but it still hurts me to the core to this day. I will never forget it. I have not received an apology, of course, nor do I expect one, and I FOR SURE will never bring it up again!
