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<blockquote data-quote="Nomore" data-source="post: 763655" data-attributes="member: 30148"><p>Your story is like many of ours. Our addicted and mentally challenged, failure to launch children become people we no longer recognize. And if they were friends, we would havd cut them out of our lives years earlier. But they take advantage of our basic mother instincts to protect our kids. And our minds focus all our energy on how to "help" them. Leaf's advice is spot on. Control what you can. Yourself. Get help with your own compulsion to rescue. Find a trusted therapist with great skill at addiction recovery. Yes, addiction recovery as you are addicted to the cycle of codependency. ALANON and books on codependency can help you explore your own contribution to your own anxiety. Continue reaching out to those that are also working on letting go. What's helping me in this letting go process is understanding that my son may always be an addict and therefore will never care about anything than getting his next drink. I am allowing myself to vocalize my grief. This grief and acknowledgement has me now switching from a place of trying to "help" to acceptance that my fantasy of him being different is just that; a fantasy. Grief counseling is helping me through the loss cycle. Prayers and hugs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomore, post: 763655, member: 30148"] Your story is like many of ours. Our addicted and mentally challenged, failure to launch children become people we no longer recognize. And if they were friends, we would havd cut them out of our lives years earlier. But they take advantage of our basic mother instincts to protect our kids. And our minds focus all our energy on how to "help" them. Leaf's advice is spot on. Control what you can. Yourself. Get help with your own compulsion to rescue. Find a trusted therapist with great skill at addiction recovery. Yes, addiction recovery as you are addicted to the cycle of codependency. ALANON and books on codependency can help you explore your own contribution to your own anxiety. Continue reaching out to those that are also working on letting go. What's helping me in this letting go process is understanding that my son may always be an addict and therefore will never care about anything than getting his next drink. I am allowing myself to vocalize my grief. This grief and acknowledgement has me now switching from a place of trying to "help" to acceptance that my fantasy of him being different is just that; a fantasy. Grief counseling is helping me through the loss cycle. Prayers and hugs. [/QUOTE]
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