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My son entered rehab yesterday
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<blockquote data-quote="healinginside" data-source="post: 763554" data-attributes="member: 29962"><p>It is easy to be torn between detaching and hope when they enter rehab for the first time. It's been a bit of a tango. Doing tons of self work. Journaling, reading, meditation, spending quality time with my husband and friends, getting organized. I understand your warnings come from a place of care. I know the statistics for rehab. </p><p></p><p>I attended another nar-anon meeting tonight. It helps. I shared Sunday and at tonight's meeting. My husband and daughter also attend. I can only do so much and the rest is up to him. I can't defend myself for having hope. His Dad went through rehab when my son was 2 (I had already walked away from that marriage) and had great success with it for at least 15-20 years. He worked the steps. But he was older than my son and I know maturity is another strike my son has against him. </p><p></p><p>Even though I was complaining about my husband's pessimism over the weekend, I would not have made it through all of this without him. He doesn't get along with my son and for years I felt as though I was being pulled between them. I did some work on myself and realized it was actually my son who was in the middle of me and my husband and it saved our marriage and brought us closer together. </p><p></p><p>The good news is my son asked to go into treatment himself - there was no "intervention" or "ultimatums" and he insists he wants to get better. But he is weak. So you are right, he will probably fail. And I will get hurt by this but then I will pick up the pieces and move on with life - as I have after every crisis I have faced in life - and find happiness in the many other facets of life.</p><p></p><p>I still believe he can't move forward with rehab, mental health help and housing. Just for today, he is getting those things.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="healinginside, post: 763554, member: 29962"] It is easy to be torn between detaching and hope when they enter rehab for the first time. It's been a bit of a tango. Doing tons of self work. Journaling, reading, meditation, spending quality time with my husband and friends, getting organized. I understand your warnings come from a place of care. I know the statistics for rehab. I attended another nar-anon meeting tonight. It helps. I shared Sunday and at tonight's meeting. My husband and daughter also attend. I can only do so much and the rest is up to him. I can't defend myself for having hope. His Dad went through rehab when my son was 2 (I had already walked away from that marriage) and had great success with it for at least 15-20 years. He worked the steps. But he was older than my son and I know maturity is another strike my son has against him. Even though I was complaining about my husband's pessimism over the weekend, I would not have made it through all of this without him. He doesn't get along with my son and for years I felt as though I was being pulled between them. I did some work on myself and realized it was actually my son who was in the middle of me and my husband and it saved our marriage and brought us closer together. The good news is my son asked to go into treatment himself - there was no "intervention" or "ultimatums" and he insists he wants to get better. But he is weak. So you are right, he will probably fail. And I will get hurt by this but then I will pick up the pieces and move on with life - as I have after every crisis I have faced in life - and find happiness in the many other facets of life. I still believe he can't move forward with rehab, mental health help and housing. Just for today, he is getting those things. [/QUOTE]
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