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My son entered rehab yesterday
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 763555" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I am not saying this at all. Or I certainly didn't mean to infer this.</p><p></p><p>I am not speaking about your child. I am speaking to parents of any similarly afflicted adult child who may read here.</p><p></p><p>I said this:</p><p></p><p>What I meant to say were two things:</p><p></p><p>Their going to treatment is not usually life and death. We just feel that way. And those feelings, if present, make an intolerable problem feel even worse.</p><p></p><p>We cannot have our lives depend upon their success. Because if we do, we rise and fall with them. In fact, it is even worse for us. Because when we rise and fall, it is as <em>the effect</em> of their behavior. We become the dependent variable in our own lives. We become powerless. We must have a power base apart from them.</p><p></p><p>I realize with all the work you are doing, you know this. I write for others who read here some who may not post. But the thing is I write .most of all for myself. Because I struggle with these things.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 763555, member: 18958"] I am not saying this at all. Or I certainly didn't mean to infer this. I am not speaking about your child. I am speaking to parents of any similarly afflicted adult child who may read here. I said this: What I meant to say were two things: Their going to treatment is not usually life and death. We just feel that way. And those feelings, if present, make an intolerable problem feel even worse. We cannot have our lives depend upon their success. Because if we do, we rise and fall with them. In fact, it is even worse for us. Because when we rise and fall, it is as [I]the effect[/I] of their behavior. We become the dependent variable in our own lives. We become powerless. We must have a power base apart from them. I realize with all the work you are doing, you know this. I write for others who read here some who may not post. But the thing is I write .most of all for myself. Because I struggle with these things. [/QUOTE]
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