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<blockquote data-quote="lovemysons" data-source="post: 761281" data-attributes="member: 3305"><p>Thank you so much all of you for your heartfelt condolences. </p><p>The funeral is this Saturday and I am missing our J terribly. I drove to the casino tonight by myself…we live 12 minutes away. I played a little but all I could think about were things he said to me in the last few times we talked. How excited he was to be coming home and seeing his kids be with our family for Christmas. How he would buy his children presents and how he and I would run up to the casino together. </p><p></p><p>Before I left for the Casino, my dear husband and I talked about what he would say at the funeral when he gets up to speak…he is in the process of writing it down as I have already written what I will say. His sister may stand up and speak too. </p><p>I am sorely disappointed that my other son who I am not that close to these days will not be at the funeral. Something about a first gymnastics competition of the season for his daughter. Sorry excuse in my book. I am sure he will have regrets at some point. My sons are nothing alike except for drug/alcohol abuse in both of their lives. Though oldest has been sober now for several years and is a quite successful business man. Our J only had his heart…but it was always enough for me. <img class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" alt="❤️" title="Red heart :heart:" src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/6.6/png/unicode/64/2764.png" data-shortname=":heart:" /></p><p></p><p>Another thing we have dealt with over the past week and half is our sons estranged wife of nearly 7 years. She dumped our son for 2 other men and had 2 more children along the way. Now, because she is next of kin, (our son and she were never divorced) she made it clear to both my husband and I that she would make all final decisions with the funeral home and service…she even texted the funeral director at 2:30 in the morning and threatened legal action if he spoke to us again without her permission. Though she now says she never said that, All the while my husband and I are paying for everything. She is now the poor distraught grieving widow. I feel so bad for our grandchildren as their mother is such a mess likely due to her own continued Adderal or Meth abuse which she has struggled with in the past. She also got upset that a very dear young lady in California who was kind to our son along the way…helped him find a job once, a place to live, bought phones for him so he could call his children and me…well she called our J’s estranged wife to comfort her and wife got extremely angry about this and said she did not want to talk to that enabler! </p><p>This young lady is not an enabler…she is more like an angel that knew our J’s heart and his struggles and loved him anyway. She is flying into town and staying at our home this weekend. She will be at our J’s funeral. </p><p>My husband is furious at the estranged wife for her recent behavior and we don’t understand where this is coming from as she gave up on our J and clearly moved on years ago. </p><p></p><p>So lots of feelings from many people around me right now. I want what our J would want…love.</p><p></p><p>LMS</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="lovemysons, post: 761281, member: 3305"] Thank you so much all of you for your heartfelt condolences. The funeral is this Saturday and I am missing our J terribly. I drove to the casino tonight by myself…we live 12 minutes away. I played a little but all I could think about were things he said to me in the last few times we talked. How excited he was to be coming home and seeing his kids be with our family for Christmas. How he would buy his children presents and how he and I would run up to the casino together. Before I left for the Casino, my dear husband and I talked about what he would say at the funeral when he gets up to speak…he is in the process of writing it down as I have already written what I will say. His sister may stand up and speak too. I am sorely disappointed that my other son who I am not that close to these days will not be at the funeral. Something about a first gymnastics competition of the season for his daughter. Sorry excuse in my book. I am sure he will have regrets at some point. My sons are nothing alike except for drug/alcohol abuse in both of their lives. Though oldest has been sober now for several years and is a quite successful business man. Our J only had his heart…but it was always enough for me. ❤️ Another thing we have dealt with over the past week and half is our sons estranged wife of nearly 7 years. She dumped our son for 2 other men and had 2 more children along the way. Now, because she is next of kin, (our son and she were never divorced) she made it clear to both my husband and I that she would make all final decisions with the funeral home and service…she even texted the funeral director at 2:30 in the morning and threatened legal action if he spoke to us again without her permission. Though she now says she never said that, All the while my husband and I are paying for everything. She is now the poor distraught grieving widow. I feel so bad for our grandchildren as their mother is such a mess likely due to her own continued Adderal or Meth abuse which she has struggled with in the past. She also got upset that a very dear young lady in California who was kind to our son along the way…helped him find a job once, a place to live, bought phones for him so he could call his children and me…well she called our J’s estranged wife to comfort her and wife got extremely angry about this and said she did not want to talk to that enabler! This young lady is not an enabler…she is more like an angel that knew our J’s heart and his struggles and loved him anyway. She is flying into town and staying at our home this weekend. She will be at our J’s funeral. My husband is furious at the estranged wife for her recent behavior and we don’t understand where this is coming from as she gave up on our J and clearly moved on years ago. So lots of feelings from many people around me right now. I want what our J would want…love. LMS [/QUOTE]
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