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My son went crazy ten years ago
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<blockquote data-quote="MissLulu" data-source="post: 758369" data-attributes="member: 24721"><p>Thanks for sharing this, RN. There is always hope I guess - your story proves that. Like Copa, I'd love you to expand on the "new way of parenting".</p><p></p><p>My son is almost 25 and we are still "in it". When I say that, I feel a bit of a fraud because as far as I know my son is stable. He is working, has a girlfriend, is living independently from us and paying his own way. (Key words: <em>as far as I know</em>.) I know there are people here with much bigger issues right now and I probably should feel better than I do.</p><p></p><p>I haven't seen him the flesh since June (and he only lives in the next town) so I don't really know what's going on. The past three weeks he hasn't been able to see us because of the new lockdown, but we hadn't seen him for over a month prior to that, so he's avoiding us for some reason. Or maybe he's just living his life - I don't know. I try to tell myself not to worry about the "what ifs". To not concern myself with things that haven't happened yet. But the fear is still there in the background - is he smoking too much weed/depressed/not taking medication? etc etc.</p><p></p><p>Obviously I have no idea whether any of this is true and I'm trying to let go and not let the fear consume me. I have stopped myself from contacting him too frequently. I allow myself a text once a week, and beyond that I leave him be. I am living my life and trying not to be overwhelmed by my fears for him. I do have mostly good days - nights are not so great, though. I fear I will carry this background sadness with me for the rest of my life.</p><p></p><p>In any case, I didn't mean to make this all about me. I am grateful to you for the sliver of hope, RN, and also to you for sticking around here to support people like me.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="MissLulu, post: 758369, member: 24721"] Thanks for sharing this, RN. There is always hope I guess - your story proves that. Like Copa, I'd love you to expand on the "new way of parenting". My son is almost 25 and we are still "in it". When I say that, I feel a bit of a fraud because as far as I know my son is stable. He is working, has a girlfriend, is living independently from us and paying his own way. (Key words: [I]as far as I know[/I].) I know there are people here with much bigger issues right now and I probably should feel better than I do. I haven't seen him the flesh since June (and he only lives in the next town) so I don't really know what's going on. The past three weeks he hasn't been able to see us because of the new lockdown, but we hadn't seen him for over a month prior to that, so he's avoiding us for some reason. Or maybe he's just living his life - I don't know. I try to tell myself not to worry about the "what ifs". To not concern myself with things that haven't happened yet. But the fear is still there in the background - is he smoking too much weed/depressed/not taking medication? etc etc. Obviously I have no idea whether any of this is true and I'm trying to let go and not let the fear consume me. I have stopped myself from contacting him too frequently. I allow myself a text once a week, and beyond that I leave him be. I am living my life and trying not to be overwhelmed by my fears for him. I do have mostly good days - nights are not so great, though. I fear I will carry this background sadness with me for the rest of my life. In any case, I didn't mean to make this all about me. I am grateful to you for the sliver of hope, RN, and also to you for sticking around here to support people like me. [/QUOTE]
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