tryingtobestrong
Active Member
So my son has been sober for about 45 days. He is back with the girlfriend and says things are going well since he is sober..
He has been working for this large company for over 3 years and in his current position for over a year. He excels in what he does and his boss has been so very supportive of him during all the times he was absent due to relapse and rehab/php, etc.
There are not many team members on his team and there is one that will be leaving in May. My son interviewed for a new position and had a 2nd interview for it last week. It is for a supervisor position within the same company. He never wanted to do that type work so I feel he is really only looking for more money which it will be.
My fear is that with the new position there will be more stress, a new boss that may not be as tolerable of his issues shall he relapse again. (He relapses every time there are issues with girlfriends- refuses to just work on himself and not get involved in relationships. As soon as they go south, he reaches for the booze.)
I am trying to let this go. It is his life. His choice. However, every time he relapses we get drawn into it due to his calls, his no money for rent, etc. I just don't know how this position will be if he goes back down the wrong path. He will supervise 7 -11 people and if he isn't present and is off days/weeks not sure what happens.
Do you feel I should bring this up to him if he asks us our views? The last time he was looking to move he asked our thoughts on it but this time the money will be substantially more than the last time. (The last time he declined the job offer because his current boss was able to get him a nice raise- this time the raise would have to be really high to match the starting rate of this new position).
I really feel bad for his current boss because my son does such a good job for him and his teammates love him.
Just wanted to some viewpoints.
He has been working for this large company for over 3 years and in his current position for over a year. He excels in what he does and his boss has been so very supportive of him during all the times he was absent due to relapse and rehab/php, etc.
There are not many team members on his team and there is one that will be leaving in May. My son interviewed for a new position and had a 2nd interview for it last week. It is for a supervisor position within the same company. He never wanted to do that type work so I feel he is really only looking for more money which it will be.
My fear is that with the new position there will be more stress, a new boss that may not be as tolerable of his issues shall he relapse again. (He relapses every time there are issues with girlfriends- refuses to just work on himself and not get involved in relationships. As soon as they go south, he reaches for the booze.)
I am trying to let this go. It is his life. His choice. However, every time he relapses we get drawn into it due to his calls, his no money for rent, etc. I just don't know how this position will be if he goes back down the wrong path. He will supervise 7 -11 people and if he isn't present and is off days/weeks not sure what happens.
Do you feel I should bring this up to him if he asks us our views? The last time he was looking to move he asked our thoughts on it but this time the money will be substantially more than the last time. (The last time he declined the job offer because his current boss was able to get him a nice raise- this time the raise would have to be really high to match the starting rate of this new position).
I really feel bad for his current boss because my son does such a good job for him and his teammates love him.
Just wanted to some viewpoints.